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A higher rung on the ladder of life

Yeshim, there is perfection in the world, and the perfection is love, the love that just is without fanfare, the love that fulfills your heart. It is just there. It isn't a big promotion. It's just quietly there. It always is. There is never a minute that it is not.

Yet this perfection is not often seen by the naked eye. Instead, confusion takes the spotlight. What does an experience mean, you wonder. How did this happen, you wonder. What a mess of confusion everything is, you feel.

Sometimes it is hard to see right side up.

Let there be confusion then. Let it be. Confusion does not require consternation. Why be surprised and disconcerted when you are in the midst of confusion?

Confusion is not such a big deal. Be confused. It's okay. A sense of confusion develops a flexibility and resilience within you. In that sense, you can be grateful for confusion.

Everyone would like to be certain about everything, yet that is not possible. The world as it is experienced on Earth is changing in every moment. But do not equate change with chaos. Confusion is not your preference, yet if you were certain of everything, where would your humanness be? What would you learn? How would you grow?

We can say that, in the world, the name of the game is uncertainty. You don't know whether to take your umbrella tomorrow or not.

You live in a world of illusory time and space. Time and space are not your foundation, and yet you depend on them as if they were. The result is confusion, Yeshim. And yet confusion points you to your actual foundation. Even in the midst of confusedness, there is peace. There is the Knowing of not knowing.

In life, it is simply that you are finding your way through a mirage, and it is a mirage that keeps one step ahead of you.

It is as if you read a story, and the story's not clear. The story keeps going on, and you haven't quite kept up with it. You don't know what happened. And when you do know what happened, you don't know why, and that leaves you bewildered. Who is to say that you are to avoid bewilderment?

Bewilderment is part of life in the world. You don't have to be bamboozled by it. Bewilderment is not out to get you. It does let you know what you can be certain about, and that is not life in the world. Let bewilderment by all its names be your friend.

You do not have to push bewilderment away. Let it teach you what it will. Bewilderment will boost you to a higher rung on the ladder of life. One confusion behind you, and one less confusion to go.

Keeping it Simple

by: Awarenessinstitute

Over the past few months, the concepts of stripping back the superfluous, simplifying and pulling apart the true meaning of integrity have been strong personal themes. For many people, there’s a drive to again inspect old patterns that continue to run happily in the background despite years of self-examination. Perhaps under the direction of a new global energy, there’s a sense of being able to lovingly let go of those things that have served us all well on one level, yet have offered excuses to stay small on another.

I came across Don Miguel Ruiz’ “The Four Agreements” the other day and it strongly resonated with this desire to pare back; to simplify; to become more real as a participant in this world and begin operating in a more authentic way.

With these 4 simple tenets, we could literally change the way we as humans operate in this world. How do they resonate with you? Please feel free to share your thoughts, we’d love to hear from you.

1. Be Impeccable with your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.

 2. Don’t Take Anything Personally: Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don’t Make Assumptions: Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. Always Do Your Best: Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret. ~ Don Miguel Ruiz

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How to Condition Your Mind To Succeed

By Ruben Gonzalez

Top achievers in every field understand that words have the power to condition the mind to succeed or fail. 

Whenever you say something, your mind tries to build a case for it. If you call yourself "stupid" the mind does a subconscious "Google search" on the word stupid and pulls up a list of every stupid thing you've ever done in your life. Armed with that list, you have the proof that you are stupid and you start acting that way. If you call yourself a winner, your mind pulls up all your winning moments. And you start acting like a winner.

In fact, if you are not getting the results you want out of life, it can probably be traced to your self talk. What you say to yourself will influence what you think. What you think influences what you do. What you do all the time becomes your habits and your habits determine your results and ultimately, your destiny.

That's why you have to be very careful with whom you associate. You don't want to get any "second hand" negative talk from the people you hang around with.

At the Olympic Training Center, they will not tolerate anyone bad-mouthing themselves. They want to create an environment conducive to achieving peak performance; an atmosphere where success is in the air. If they catch you bad-mouthing yourself, it's pushups time. Why do you think Olympic athletes are in such great shape?

Sometimes, even Olympic athletes forget to watch their self-talk. My worst luge crash ever was a result of negative self-talk.

One year before the Salt Lake City Olympics, we were in St. Moritz, Switzerland training for a world cup race. We were training in the morning and the Italians were training in the afternoon. At the time, the Italians were the best. So that afternoon, I went to the track to watch the Italians train. I wanted to see what lines they took down the track. I wanted to learn from the best.

I went to the fastest point of the track, curve thirteen. Watching the Italians rocket down the track at over eighty-five miles per hour was unbelievable. Every time an Italian luger went by I would mutter to myself, "I can't believe I do that." Another sled would barrel down the track and I'd say to myself, "I can't believe I do that." For two hours, I said it over and over.

Up to that day, I had not had any major problems at that track. I was just looking for a way to take my abilities to the next level.

The next day, on my first run, as I reached Curve thirteen, my mind reminded me, "That's right, Ruben, you CAN'T DO THAT!" And I froze; forgot to steer and had a horrible crash.  I broke my foot, broke my hand, and totaled my sled. End of season.

That was the lowest point of my luge career. At that point I didn't know if I would be able to go to the Olympics. I was hurt, I could not afford another sled, and it was all because a couple of hours of negative self-talk.

I had a pity party for a couple of days but eventually, flying back home from Europe, halfway over the Atlantic, I got my head straight. I took a piece of paper and wrote, "This has been the worst year of my life; the most stressful and frustrating. I am being tested. I will pass the test. I have an opportunity to make an incredible comeback and show what I'm made up of." Then, I started saying to myself, "There is always a way. There is always a way. There is always a way. I will find a way, because.

Repeating the phrase, "There is always a way," over and over, when you are facing obstacles, puts your mind in a solution-finding state. It helps you shift your focus away from the problem and into finding a solution. 

And I did find a solution. I could not afford to buy another sled, but maybe I could borrow a sled. I started calling some of my best luge buddies and my good friend Adam Cook of the New Zealand Luge Team, loaned me his sled to qualify and race in the Salt Lake Olympics.

Watch what you say to yourself, and remember, there is always a way.

Copyright © 2008 Ruben Gonzalez


You are a wonderful person

It's hard to accept, but you can't change the past. You can't go back and manipulate things to the way you wanted them to happen. Because life'd be meaningless and boring and just not worth living. But you can change the future and that's a beautiful thing about life. Yes, you will make mistakes. And yes, you will have bad days - but as long as you let the past go, you'll have such a gorgeous and bright future ahead of you. Knowing that things were meant to happen. Knowing that each day you will learn something so that you keep growing to be a better person. Life is like a rope, twined in all its complexities and yet weaved into one marvelous stream that you have the chance you use something amazing from. So grab hold of it.

I never regret anything that has happened to me in my life, whether it is making a bad choice, deciding to do something I shouldn’t have, saying the wrong thing or not doing something I should have done... because all of these things have given me the knowledge I have today and helped make me who I am today... and that is one thing I will never regret.

In a world of comparison and conformity, make your own statement. Honor your own truth. Have the courage to be yourself; risk speaking your own thoughts and claiming your emotions. Share your vulnerabilities, tears, doubts, and insecurities; let others experience the real you. Have the courage to be yourself and realize that you are a wonderful person.


Seven Self Improvement Tips That Will Make A Difference
by Amie Erickson

For people who are through it, they can tell you that self improvement is a journey. It all depends on where one is starting from. The most necessary thing but is getting that first step out of the way.Self improvement comes with the fulfillment that comes from understanding oneself. It is through this understanding that you get to grasp your house within the universe and your role here. You can understand that not everything has got to be a struggle; you can achieve success, made and happy and fulfill your mission.

As the author I have studied self improvement over the years, I've got picked out 7 self improvement tips that are a should for you to implement so that you'll see yourself started on the journey of private growth. I'm going to share them with you in this article.

Daily Journaling

Have you ever puzzled how come back the globe these days is aware of thus a lot of regarding past great achievers? True, individuals took day trip to check them, but a heap of the stories and details that we have a tendency to know regarding them could only have return from themselves. They are a translation of their thoughts on to paper. They kept journals and recorded their observations and their feelings. For you, a journal is more than a map of your journey. It helps to clarify thought, to think additional clearly and to truly see where your thinking could not be thus good. You then need to improve. Once you record one thing it becomes additional than a fleeting thought. Tomorrow, you may look back and see how you felt, and you'll compare with how you are feeling or suppose these days and you'll be able to go ahead and create adjustments.


This is often the one that's most unconsidered by most people, but it conjointly happens to be the foremost important of the 7 self improvement tips. Meditation is the most effective and handiest manner of reducing stress and clearing out your system. You dispose of junk thoughts and better of all, you leave area in there for clean, clear thinking. It additionally has direct health advantages; you'll weigh down your heart beat and improve digestion simply by meditating for a few minutes every day. You will sleep higher and heal faster. Essentially, mediation is that the pillar of the seven self improvement tips - it is the one that produces all the others effective.

Expecting to Win

Of the seven self improvement tips, this one is the hardest to clarify because some folks just do not seem to listen to it. You wish to vary your thinking therefore that you tune yourself to expecting positive results. What's success alternative than what you're thinking that regarding? How will you get rich and be happy if every outcome you expect is negative? Some people are quick to argue now, however what they don't understand is that along with their positive thoughts are a ton of negative thoughts that have an effect on outcomes.

Expectations aren't regarding outcomes. They're concerning bold, right action and knowing that the results will be in your favor no matter what they can be.

Writing Goals and Plans of Action

A written goal is sort of a map. Let me challenge you right currently to jot down a tiny goal, one thing that is inconsequential and to who's outcome you are not attached and stick it where you'll be able to see it every day. The instant you see your goal, you see plans of action concerning it start to form. You discover yourself spurred into action to try and do the proper thing. Return after thirty days and see how far along your written goal you've come. Did it facilitate to write down it?

I can challenge you that every time you are feeling in a very rut and like things are not working out for you, pull out your goal book and begin by ticking off how many of the last heap you have got achieved and then adding on new ones. You always come out with a clearer mind.

Be well Rounded

All areas of your life contribute to your self improvement. Your relationships, your health, your finances, will all affect any kind of private growth you are attempting to attain if they're out of balance. Simply one in all them going dangerous can lead to any or all of them going bad. As you seek to begin on personal development, work on all areas. - work on maintaining physical stamina, emotional fortitude, financial security and a smart social support system to realize personal growth.

Positive Affirmations

This has the power to vary your inner dialogue, and it is a powerful tool considering that much of the discontent in our lives is caused by inner dialogue. What does one advice yourself? Start to write down down an affirmation daily on all key areas of your life and rehearse it aloud twice daily. You are teaching you subconscious positive dialogue.

Teach to Learn

Of the 7 self improvement tips, this one is the one that will help you master self improvement the most. You learn one thing better after you teach it. As you teach, your inner mind opens therefore that you'll be in a position to digest and transmit information. Whatever you were trying to teach will be sitting there in your mind forever. Teaching is also a manner of holding yourself accountable - there are specific standards expected of academics so that students will follow in their steps. If you've got no one to teach, write! Form a study group and first study the subject yourself and teach the others and help them learn.

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Seven Secrets to College Success
by: Bruce Gibbs

Congratulations. You have made the decision to pursue higher education and to meet your goal of obtaining a college degree. You are embarking on a journey that can take you places you may have only dreamed of. Being in college can be fun but it can also be challenging. In this article I have put together ten steps that can help you to be successful at your collegiate goals.

1. Be punctual: Being late for class is a sign of disrespect. It tells the instructor you don’t want to be in his class or that you don’t take the class seriously. You also miss important information when you are late. Do you like it when people are late for something you’ve planned? Of course not. The instructor has spent time preparing for the class and you should give the instructor the time you have scheduled for his class. Besides, you have spent money for the class so you should show up on time to get what you paid for. Being punctual also helps when it comes time for grading. Grading is subjective and you want to do everything you can to leave a positive impression in your instructor’s mind so he can remember you this way doing grading. Being late for class doesn’t make a positive impression. So if you are habitually late, why should he sweat over your grade? Take my word for it, show up on time.

2. Do the homework: It is a waste of your time and the instructor’s time if you just sit in class but never do the assignments. Not doing class assignments is a guaranteed way to fail. Instructors use assignments to determine your knowledge and your grade. Assignments also help you to learn more about your field of study. Instructors can also tell if you half-heartedly completed an assignment. And don’t wait until the last minute to do your assignment. If you start early you will have a better product than if you waited until the due date to start on it.

3. Ask questions: Some people think asking questions is dumb. In reality it’s just the opposite. Instructors like students who ask questions. It shows you are interested in the class and that you really want to learn more about the subject the instructor is an expert in. The question you ask is probably the same question several other students in the class want answered so you’ll be doing them a favor.

4. Be confident: As an instructor, I like students who are confident in their abilities and act on them. Many times students are afraid to speak up in class or write a paper about an interesting subject because they are afraid what the instructor or their fellow students may think. As a result research papers or projects are sometimes dull and boring because they cover “safe” topics. It’s okay to be afraid. It’s not okay to let fear keep you from doing something you really want do. So go ahead and write that paper you’ve been longing to write or start on that project that you truly believe in. Be confident and be able to back up your findings or conclusions with evidence.

5. Volunteer: College instructors like students who volunteer. Volunteerism shows you want to really want to get involved in your major or your school. You don’t have to volunteer for something big. It could be something as simple as agreeing to be a group discussion leader or leading a class project. It could be volunteering to be on a student committee or to be on the board of a student chapter of an organization. Find ways to volunteer. This will not only help your grades but it can also enhance your studies.

6. Be prepared for tests: Depending on your instructor, you may not know when he or she may call a pop quiz. Successful students are prepared and always ready. You can be prepared by reading the class material before the class, participating in class discussions, and by doing the assignments and exercises in your textbook.

7. Get to know people: Successful people network. You have to do the same too, even on a college campus. When you get to know people on campus they share with you information that they have. This information can help you in a class, help you to save money or a purchase, assist you in choosing a class, or even choosing a major. Networking is a very important tool in the world of business so you might as well practice the skill while you are in college. Remember that you can be a success in college. Yes it’s hard but you can do it!

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To Be Yourself

We say that you are your own culprit. You are the source of any complaints you have. This is nothing new, but have you recognized it yet?

Here are some things you can do to avoid opening yourself up to anyone's displeasure and your seeking another's approval. It begins with you.

No longer feel a need to explain yourself. Explain no more. Why do you need to be explained? Explaining yourself is justifying or even apologizing, and too often you explain ahead of time. It is as if you are asking for permission to be who you are. For this you need no permission...

You may need permission to walk on someone's property, true. But you are not someone's property. You belong to yourself.

There is no need for you to explain every decision you make. You own your decisions. If you decide to move to Timbuktu, who has to approve your decision? Do you need your decision to be voted on? Who is it who decides whether you go somewhere or not?

And if you do not want to move to Timbuktu, that decision is also yours to make.

Get away from the idea that you owe people explanations. Talk something over with your wife or husband when your decision impacts them. Talk it over with your mother or father when you want to, yet know in your heart that you are free to make your own decisions. You are the one who buys the ticket. You are the one who travels there. You are the one who reaps the experience.

Away with the feeling that you must justify or prove anything! There is nothing to prove. You are a grown person who has decisions to make, and you make them. They are your decisions. Do not make decisions for others, and do not invite others to make yours. Is this not plain common sense?

As you grow more firmly planted in your own selfdom, others will look at you more confidently. They will not look for explanations from you. They will know that you are sovereign over your own life. It will not occur to them to ask you to justify yourself. They will see you as your own free being.

There is an added bonus to this. You will also be strengthening all those to whom you previously may have felt you had to offer explanations. Their shoulders will go back. They will have more confidence in themselves too. Confidence spreads like wildfire.

It is confidence that is the underlining of knowing you do not need to explain yourself. The confidence you used to put on others' opinions, you can now put on your own. What a savings of time and energy!

Confidence comes from knowing your worth. It's that simple. Know your own worth, and you will have confidence.

Think of how you will walk when you have confidence! Think of the energy and light you will radiate! Think of how exuberantly happy you will be.

You will not swagger. You will have no more need for swaggering than you do explaining. Swaggering and explaining are just two sides of the same coin. You are way above both.


Dream New Dreams

Dreams beyond your imaginings are coming true. I have told you this before, and I am telling you again.

You may still be thinking the world is unchanged, and that your hopes and dreams will be dashed as they may have been in the past.

No longer use the past as your reference point. It is not reliable, and, frankly, the past is not relevant.

The world is not the same. Nor are you the same. You know you are not what you once were. What makes you think you have changed and the world hasn’t? The world has kept up with you. The world may well be ahead of you now. In any case, the world you once knew is not the same world in front of you today.

If I told you that you are standing at the edge of an abyss and you are in great danger, you would believe me, is that not so? How easily you believe in doom and danger. And now I tell you that you are standing at the edge of a new world. This world has washed its face, and you will hardly recognize it. Come, believe in the joy that is on its way to you. Dare to believe, and dare to make new dreams so that they may come true.

This is the world dreamed of, and now it is yours. Now it is the world you live in. Oh, some of the pictures of the former world you lived in remain, yet those held-over pictures are fading fast.

In case you have grown beyond your old dreams, dream new dreams now. Dream of what you want now. Go beyond even your finest material dreams. What do you really want? What dreams do you really want to come true? Dream them. Keep dreaming them. Keep having dream after dream, one on top of the other. Let your dreams spill over into the world. The world is thirsty for your dreams. It will lap them up. From your dreams, the world will grow. Your dreams are sprouting now.

You make it possible for you to receive your dreams. Dreams are thoughts. Thoughts radiate. Dreams radiate. Dreams come true because you radiate them.

Your dreams are like gifts you give. One dream nests within another, the way boxes fit inside another. When you open one box, you find a host more of boxes inside. So with dreams, you find one following after another. Dreams are something like cut-out paper dolls, each attached to the other, each dream holding hands with another. There is dream after dream, each one pulling the next one along.

Start your dreams. Let them rise like balloons up into the sky. Let them rise. Your dreams will gather their fruit and then return themselves to you. You will see your dreams come true. They will dance before you. Dreams dreamt become dreams realized. You will have dreams to the right of you, dreams to the left of you. Dreams beget dreams. You will gradually see that life is all made of dreams come true. Let your dreams precede and follow you.

Dream your dreams. Dreaming manifests. Have good dreams. Watch for them to multiply.


When Your Feelings Are Hurt

What if you accepted everything that came to you as what is supposed to come? What if you did not have to fight it? What if you did not have to push it away? Even when it was something you didn’t like, what if you didn’t have to make anything of it? What if you did not have to fume about it or ache about it? What if whatever happens happens, and that’s all there is to it? What if you do not have to berate anyone for what you didn’t want, not anyone including yourself?

This is what is meant by taking life as it comes. You simply don’t make a big to-do about it. You don’t have to go into it. It happened. You don’t have to defend yourself. You do not have to set someone else straight.

Whatever happens that you don’t like, what if you would consider it like rain? When you are caught in the rain, you keep going. You pull out an umbrella or you dash into a coffee shop. In any case, you don’t stop in your tracks and rail at the rain or try to figure out how it could rain or wonder what you did to bring the rain.

Perhaps you could consider what befalls as too bright sunshine in your eyes? In that case, you would slip on your sunglasses or perhaps cup your hand over your eyes or simply get out of the rays of the sun. You wouldn’t think less of the sun because it blinded you for a moment. You wouldn’t accuse the sun. You wouldn’t try to educate the sun.

Look, you would take the rain and the sun in your stride. They would not set you back. They would not stop you in your tracks.

And, yet, when someone says something that hurts your feelings, your whole focus seems to alight on your feelings and the unfairness of the person who said something that you take so much to your heart. Must someone's affront to you, intended or not intended, overtake your equanimity? Must a remark ruin your day? Must you keep thinking about it and thinking of what you should have said and what a nerve the offender had to say what he said and think what he thinks and why do you care so much?

By the same token, your day doesn’t have to be made because of great appreciation from someone, as if your life is as dependent upon accolades as it is upon reproaches.

What is the difference between someone who says something awful to you and your being taken over by the thought of how awful it is what he said and how he should not have?

Maybe the person who offends you didn’t mean to. Or, even if he did mean to, you’ve still got to let go of it. Maybe the people who offend you were offended by something you carelessly or innocently said or did. Take care of that which you can take care of, and then let it go. Maybe a simple “I’m sorry,” is enough, from you to another and from another to you.

Such matters are not the point of your life. Your existence has to be for greater than what aggravates you.

People misunderstand. People mistake. And, dear ones, if your day is made or your day is broken because of what someone else says, then find a way to overcome your super-sensitivity. If you are to react to what every Tom, Dick, and Harry says, then you have to find a way not to be so affected.

People who offend you are not mosquitoes that you must slap. A mosquito does get under your skin, yet, even with a mosquito, you don’t let a mosquito bite occupy your thoughts for the rest of your day or the week or for years.

Probabilities and Possibilities

By Ruben Gonzalez

I finish my speeches by saying, "What are the chances that someone like me was going to make it to the Olympics? I wasn't a great athlete, I didn't get started until I was 21 years old, and to top it off I live in hot and humid Houston and I chose to compete in the luge for Pete's sake! What are the chances? One in a million? One in ten million? I probably had a better chance to win the lottery!"

"I was just an ordinary kid with an extraordinary dream. I wasn't a big shot. I was just a little shot that kept on shooting. And that's something you can do too. If you make a decision to become a little shot who keeps on shooting, the world is yours."

Believe it or not, the secret to creating an extraordinary life is right in those words.

Most people look at their dreams and start calculating the odds of them ever happening. They can tell you the probabilities and that number keeps them from even getting started.

They don't understand that the probability at any one time has nothing to do with success. Because if you don't even get started, the probability of success is zero, zilch, nada.

They don't realize that they can change the probabilities.

Every time you take action in the pursuit of your dream, you're increasing the probabilities of reaching it. It's all up to you. You have control over the probabilities.

Once you buy into that, it's easier to make a decision to take massive action.  Understanding that makes it easier to commit to your dream. Once you commit to your dream, burn the bridges, and make a decision to do whatever it takes for as long as it takes, the probability of success increases dramatically. Why? Because 99% of the people will NEVER do whatever it takes!

When I called the people in Lake Placid to ask for help in getting started in the luge, the guy on the phone laughed at me. He said I was way too old to get started. He said, "If you want to do it at your age and in only four years it will be brutal. Nine out of ten people quit!" When I heard that, I got excited. I got excited because I could see the opportunity. And I simply decided that quitting would not be an option for me.

Once I made that decision, all I had to do was to outlast everyone else! The guy on the phone saw my probability as one out of ten. But I saw it as 100% (as long as I was willing to outlast everyone else). Four years and a few broken bones later, I was competing in the Olympics (it wasn't quite that simple, but focusing on the possibility got me to do what I needed to do to become an Olympian).

Stop focusing on the probabilities. Focus on the possibility. Ask yourself, "What is my dream? Is it a dream that takes my breath away? Is it something that excites me and gives meaning to my life?" And if it is, ask yourself, "If it is possible, then why not me?"

Don't focus on the probabilities. Focusing on the probabilities will kill your confidence. Once you lose your confidence, it's easy to quit. And stop hanging around people that talk about being realistic. Realistic people are mediocre. They live lukewarm lives and NEVER do ANYTHING with their lives.

Start hanging around winners. Hang around achievers. I have NEVER heard a real winner talk about being realistic. Realistic stinks! Think about three people you truly admire. I guarantee you that they did not get where they are by being realistic!

Focus on your dream, listen to your gut feeling, and follow your heart wholeheartedly. Ask yourself, "Why not me? Why not now?" and, "What can I do right now to get me closer to my dream?"

When you ask yourself the right questions, focus on the possibilities, and hang around like-minded people, your confidence will soar and you'll be on the road to realizing your dream.

Do that, and at the end of your life you will be able to look back and say, "I lived a magnificent life!"

Copyright © 2008 Ruben Gonzalez


Deep Stuff


The following is the philosophy of Charles Schultz, the creator of the ‘Peanuts’ comic strip.

You don’t have to actually answer the questions. Just ponder on them. Just read them straight through, and you’ll get the point.

1. Name the five wealthiest people in the world.
2. Name the last five Heisman trophy winners.
3. Name the last five winners of the Miss America pageant.
4 Name ten people who have won the Nobel or Pulitzer Prize.
5. Name the last half dozen Academy Award winners for best actor and actress.
6. Name the last decade’s worth of World Series winners.

The point is, none of us remember the headliners of yesterday. These are no second-rate achievers. They are the best in their fields. But the applause dies.. Awards tarnish. Achievements are forgotten. Accolades and certificates are buried with their owners.

Here’s another quiz. See how you do on this one:

1. List a few teachers who aided your journey through school.
2. Name three friends who have helped you through a difficult time.
3. Name five people who have taught you something worthwhile.
4. Think of a few people who have made you feel appreciated and special!!
5. Think of five people you enjoy spending time with.


The lesson:

The people who make a difference in your life are not the ones with the most credentials.. the most money… or the most awards.

They simply are the ones who care the most. 


Celebrate your days

What makes one day different from another? What makes Thanksgiving a special day for many? What makes the 4th of July a holiday in the U.S. ? What makes the first day of school special? What makes Sundays like Sundays? What makes your birthday a special day? What makes any day special?

The day is the day it is. Days themselves do not call themselves the days of the week. They don’t even know the names of the days of the week. Days don’t say: “Today I am Monday. Tomorrow I am Tuesday.” Days themselves don’t even conceive of yesterday or today. Days themselves offer themselves to you the same every day. “Here, take me,” the day says, “and make of me what you will.”

And yet every day is not lived the same. What makes the difference between a great day and a so-so one? If it isn’t the day itself, it must be you then. A day is like an ace dealt to you. You can use an ace as a ten or one.

You set the dial of your day.

There are certain days you anticipate. Your very anticipation sets the tone of your day. Anticipate golden days, beloveds. By your anticipation, you set up your day to a certain frequency. When you don’t look forward to a day, you also set it to a certain frequency. Will you turn that dial and set your days to happiness?

You are the prime ingredient of your day. You make your day. No one else does. You set up the perimeters of your day. You are the one who gives a name to it. If Thanksgiving Day is your favorite day, then let every day be a celebration of thanksgiving. If you like birthdays, consider every day your birthday. That is the truth, of course. Every day is your birthday. You are born anew every day. Leave your old self behind, and recreate yourself today.

Celebrate life. What matters the number of the day or whether it is weekday or weekend? It’s a day. It’s welcome day. It’s a universal day. It is today.

Leap out of that bed and go to the greet the day that delivers itself to you so generously. Be generous with all your days.

Consider the day an express elevator you ride on. This elevator goes up. It reaches one floor at a time. The elevator keeps going up. Your days are a stream of life. The stream of your days doesn’t start and stop. There is no separation between the stream today and the stream tomorrow. The elevator of days you ride on is a continuum. There really is no pause, no break between one day or another.

You believe in days. Now believe in good days, and better and better days, and make them so. Celebrate your days ahead of time. You are riding in an elevator that goes up and up. How far will you reach today? How far do you want to reach?

You may roll over in bed, yet days just keep going on. They go straight up. Go with your day. Fly with them.

And, yet, live this day as it was delivered to you. Fill in the lines. Make this day magnificent. Make this day superlative. Make this a marvelous day. Grow the kind of day you want. Nourish it well. Give it action, and give it rest. Treat today like the royal guest it is. Lay out the welcome mat for today. Carry today over the threshold. Have a great day.

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Are You a "Can-Do" Person?

By Michael Angier

Sad but true. When it comes to the people who can be counted upon to get a job done, correctly and on time, the numbers are few.

In my experience, out of a hundred people, the number of get-it-done people can be measured in the single digits.

The good news is if you resolve to become one of these people, you'll easily stand out from the crowd.

Of course there are large numbers of people who manage to hold onto their job simply by doing their job. But I'm talking about working unsupervised. I'm talking about taking the initiative, setting a goal or taking on a project, and sticking with it until it's accomplished.

The vast majority of people can show up for a job they dislike but can't seem to set and achieve goals on their own.

And that's what separates the winners from the spectators. 

I have a plaque that reads, "There are three kinds of people: those who make it happen, those who watch it happen and those who wonder what happened."

In terms of getting it done, I think there are four kinds of people:

·         Those who never start. 

·         Those who start but give up too quickly.

·         Those who start, work hard and hang in there, but aren't flexible enough with their strategies to complete the project. 

·         Those few who start and continue to persist with a willingness to change tactics in order to get it done.

Determine to be one of the few who do instead of the many who don't. Be your word. Do what you resolve to do …every time.

In doing so, you'll develop a habit of completion. You will earn a reputation for being someone who can be counted upon to "get it done."

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"I'm proud of you!"

By Bob Perks

What did you really think when you saw the subject line in this email?  Did it grab your attention? Did it make you want to read it?  Did it make you feel good for a moment?

"Who's proud of me?"  you might have thought.

That's how powerful those words are. 

Tell someone today.

"I'm proud of you!"

Does anyone say it any more? When I heard it the other day, it caught my attention.  It was like hearing something oddly familiar but distant and faint in my memory.

You know, like things your grandmother used to say. 

I needed to understand why.  I mean, it just doesn't seem right that a phrase so powerful would not be heard and used regularly.

"I'm proud of you!"

When was the last time you said that to someone?  Not just someone you love, but a neighbor, friend, or co-worker.

To a neighbor...

"You make a difference in the world in everything you do. I watch the people around you, how they react whenever you're there.  They smile, laugh often and feel better for having had you in their day, even if ever so briefly. I'm proud of you!"

To a Friend...

"You take on the challenges of life and never give in.  You might not always win, but you don't lose for lack of trying. I'm proud of you!"

To a co-worker...

"You care.  It shows in the way you do your work. You not only do your job, you care about the details, the goals and the outcome.

I'm proud of you!"

To a child...

"You didn't hit a home run, but you played with your heart in every game.  You never missed a practice, you tried your very best.  That's a home run in my book. I'm proud of you!"

To your spouse or partner...

"We'll get through this together.  Yes, you lost your job, but so did many others.  I see great determination in your eyes.  I love you even more in the difficult times because that's when you shine and the world sees your best. I'm proud of you!"

"I'm proud of you!" 


Mandela’s 8 Lessons of Leadership

By Richard Stengel

As Mandela celebrates his 90th birthday, the world’s greatest moral leader reflects on a lifetime of serviceand what the rest of us can learn from it. Click the link below to read the whole story. We promise it will be quite a journey!

No. 1 - Courage is not the absence of fear — it's inspiring others to move beyond it

No. 2 - Lead from the front — but don't leave your base behind

No. 3 - Lead from the back — and let others believe they are in front

No. 4 - Know your enemy — and learn about his favorite sport

No. 5 - Keep your friends close — and your rivals even closer

No. 6 - Appearances matter — and remember to smile

No. 7 - Nothing is black or white

No. 8 - Quitting is leading too,8599,1821467,00.html


Running with the Bulls in Pamplona

By Ruben Gonzalez

We stood for hours in the plaza trying to stay warm in the chilly Pyrenees Mountain morning. About 3000 of us. People fof all ages from all over the world drawn to Pamplona by the mystique of running with the bulls.

You could feel the tension rise as the time got closer to 8:00 AM, the time when six bulls and several steers would be released to run through the cobblestoned streets of Pamplona . The half mile course is only 15 to 20 feet wide. There is no place to escape and since bulls can run much faster than people, in time, everyone will be overtaken by the bulls.

Video of July 8, 2008 run (my first ever)

The bull run only takes about 3-4 minutes. The most dangerous and exhilarating three minutes of your life.

There are always injuries. So many injuries that there are emergency medical crews and ambulances every 50 yards. Someone will be hurt today. Occasionally someone will lose their life. In 1995 a 22 year old American was gored to death less than 30 seconds after the beginning of the run. His first…

What drives people to risk their lives running with the bulls? Some say you feel most alive when you are nearest death. Others run for the challenge. Personally, I just think it’s fun, exciting, and exhilarating.

Before going to Pamplona I took the same approach I take with everything. I looked for knowledge from the experts. I read three books about Pamplona - several times. I contacted one of the authors - a man who’s been running for 30 years, to pick his brain. Then, I spent many hours watching videos of the bull run to study the paths different runners took as they ran.

At first, the videos just looked to me like a horde of people running for their lives. After watching the videos over and over again, I started to see well defined patterns. All of a sudden, the things I had read about in the books started to make sense. I realized that there is a right way and a wrong way to run with the bulls.

I did my homework and that made all the difference.

What did I learn from all my study? I learned a handful of insights that drastically reduced my risk and turned a potentially deadly adventure into a science. Into a strategic challenge.

July 9, 2008 bull run (my second ever)

Just like in business and in life, you find two types of people in the bull run. There are the amateurs who show up, wing it, and often get hurt. And there are the professionals. The experts who armed with knowledge and skill rarely get hurt.

95% of the people are amateurs. 5% are the pros. The experts. The winners. Just like in business. Just like in life.

What did I learn from my research? I learned simple things that made a huge difference in my Pamplona experience.

First and most importantly, make sure to run sober and watch out for the drunks. There were lots of them out there. The drunks are more dangerous and more unpredictable than the bulls. The drunks trip, fall and cause human pileups that you have to hurdle as you run down the street.

Secondly, if you fall, cover your head and stay down. The bulls will jump over you. If you get up, you become a big target and you could easily get hurt.

Thirdly, tie your sash in a slip knot. Everyone in Pamplona dresses the same way during the Fiesta. White shirt, white pants, red bandana around the neck, and a red sash around the waist. If you tie your sash in a double knot (like 95% of the amateurs did) and a bull’s horn hooks your sash, the bull will drag you along the streets with your head bouncing off the cobblestones the whole way. Not the best way to spend your time in Spain .

Like I said, simple stuff that can make a huge difference.

Finally, where do you run?

The half mile course has five sections. Most deaths have occurred at the beginning and at the end. Most injuries and gorings occur at a sharp right hand curve in the middle of the course. Stay away from those three areas unless you have been running for many years.

The whole time you are running you are deep in a narrow canyon made up of 10 story buildings on either side of the narrow streets. You are in the shade the whole time except right before you enter “Dead Man’s Curve” or “La Curva” as it is known in Pamplona . Right before “La Curva” you are blinded by the early morning sun. The bulls are blinded as well and they slip on the moist cobblestones and slam into the retaining wall at the far side of the curve. Many injuries occur here when the runners get pinned by the falling bulls.

The experts told us to begin the run about 50 yards past “La Curva” on the right side of the street. Why? Because the bulls tend to run on the left side of the street after passing “La Curva.” By starting the run from the right side, you have a chance to gradually approach the bulls as you run down the long straightaway past the curve.

The top runners position themselves in the middle of the street and try to run right in front of the bulls’ horns for as long as they can before they are overtaken. We were happy to run beside the bulls. Close but not too close.

There is a bull run every morning for the 8 days of the Fiesta. I was there three days. I watched the first day and ran the second and the third. I’m still a beginner at this. Like everything else, practice makes perfect. I think it will take at least 2-3 years of running all 8 days to learn the basics. And then a lifetime to master the basics.

So what does all of this have to so with success? Everything! Whenever you are about to try anything new, something that looks too hard and too risky to be worthwhile, do what high achievers everywhere do. Don’t try to figure it out on your own. You don’t know what you don’t know and what you don’t know can hurt you.

Rather, find the experts. Learn from the best. Then give yourself a couple of years to learn the basic skills by taking consistent and persistent action. By doing that, in time you will become the expert others turn to for advice. By pursuing excellence in everything you do you will make your life a masterpiece.

Copyright © 2008 Ruben Gonzalez


Remember The Moments

We were deeply touched by the wise, spiritually profound, and ironically humorous perspectives on life often shared by George Carlin.  He apparently wrote this message below shortly after his wife had died. Now, George has passed and we are left with only the memories of his beautiful and funny thoughts. If you're so moved I hope you will pass this message on as a way of honoring the insights and legacy of a wise man who brought great laughter to our world.  Thank you for the laughter, love and joy you brought into our life George.

A Message by George Carlin:

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but

Less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things.

We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete...

Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.

Remember, to say, 'I love you' to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.

Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.


Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.


Studying Made Simple

Study methods

·        Do not just study one single subject for long hours.

·        Study 2-3 different subjects regularly everyday, even if there’s no test.

·        Review what’s been taught in class, on the very same day.

·        Preview the lessons which haven’t been taught.

·        Use mind-mapping concept in studying.

·        Instead of memorizing one whole paragraph, highlight the important points and try to understand, not mug up, so that you can develop the points in your own sentences in the test.

·        Each study period lasts for about 25 minutes.

·        Take a break about 5-10 minutes after each study period.

·        Do not do anything that needs concentration during the break, ie. playing electronic games, reading    story book, etc.

·        Drink a cup of tea/coffee, sit back and relax during break time.

·        Do not multitask while studying.

·        Listen to soft music only, e.g. baroque, or other classics.

Self commitment

·           Make a proper daily study schedule.

·        Commit yourself to the schedule that you’ve made.

·        Do not take learning as something boring or difficult, in fact take it easy, no tension.

Do not set any target for marks, just give it the best shot, however you should be aware that having no marks target doesn’t mean it’s ok if you get failing marks, failing marks are not at all your best shot!

Health matters

·        Eat balanced diet and exercise regularly everyday.

·        Sleep at least 8 hours a day.

·        Avoid staying up till late at night when you’re having tests.

·        Staying awake the whole night studying for a test is not recommended, you may finish studying the portion for the test but the next day you’re going to forget them all!

·        Early to bed, early to rise, makes a student healthy, brainy, and fresh.


Take a Chance

(From Ruben Gonzalez's book "Becoming Unstoppable.")

The most successful people in the world are risk takers. As soon as they see an opportunity, they move quickly and make something happen. They have a special quality that sets them apart from less successful people. They take initiative in everything they do. Successful people accept responsibility and take action when they see something needs to be done. They don't suffer from paralysis of analysis. They just do something. Anything that will get them closer to their goal.

By taking action - massive action - they build momentum and soon good things start to happen. My business coach likes to say, "Most people need to think less and act more." Another of my mentors always says, "Done is better than perfect." Another way to say it is - implement now, perfect later. If you want to succeed, be willing to fail. To succeed big, be willing to fail big. To succeed fast, be willing to fail fast.

 Successful people are willing to try different approaches to reach their goal. They are not worried about failing. They are just focused on the result. They just throw mud on the wall knowing that if they throw enough, some of it will stick. They never focus on the approaches that didn't work. There's no tie for that. Wallowing with self pity is for losers. Winners simply learn from their mistakes and quickly try a different approach.

The faster they move, the more energy they have. The more different things they try, the more likely they are of succeeding. They make a game out of it. And they never take their focus away from the goal. Their attitude is - there is always a way. I will find a way. I will succeed

A national survey of octogenarians revealed that their biggest regret in life was not having had taken enough risks. Think about that! What they're saying is they realize they did not live life to the fullest and they missed out.

When you turn eighty you don't want to have that regret. So go for it. Take a chance. Do something. You'll be glad you did.

Copyright © 2007 Ruben Gonzalez


Be a Story Teller, Not Just a Speaker

Speakers are ordinarily people, from teachers to grandparents, from mountain climbers to cancer survivors. The platform provides them with a privilege and awesome responsibility to share their stories in a way that helps the audience to “wake up.” Good stories make people say, “Wait a minute. I can think or act differently about everything than I did before.” Stories are everywhere. Speakers learn to retrieve them and retell them to audiences as a way to show their humanness to show they care; to open people to possibility thinking and how making mistakes will lead to the courage to finally help them succeed. Because most of us define our thoughts visually, great stories help to enhance and even transform our lives.

Be unique. Think funny thoughts. Live and re-live your story when you are telling a story. Words are critical so be sure to pause when necessary and be in the now. Your words need to create an image in the audience’s mind so that they can remember your story. They may be a step away from their own story. This will strengthen the connection between you and them.

What is your story?


Hold That Elevator!
By Clyde Dennis

As Prince, or whatever his name is now put it in one of his songs, "When Life’s elevator tries to bring you down go crazy, punch a higher floor!"

Well..., This way to the next level!

For the past couple of weeks I’ve experienced one of those periods I both love and hate at the same time. Hate’em because they’re painful. Love’em because they’re great measuring sticks and opportunities to see how far I’ve come and get a real indication of how far I still have to go. These are great opportunities for gaining even more clarity as well.

Just because I have the choice and can, let’s focus on the measuring stick side of this equation.

See, I’ve come to the conclusion that Life is about levels. From the time we’re born to the time we’re planted we should be about growing and learning and teaching. Continually moving onward and upward from level to level in our development. This is one of those things we need to keep a constant vigil on. If we’re not careful one day you’ll wake up and realize you’re still where you were three, four, five years ago. Same level of thinking. Same level of Life. Not good.

Stop this week. Consider what level you’re on. How long have you been there? How long do you plan on staying? What’s it going to take to get yourself to the next level? Some questions to ponder.

Life is a great teacher. If we’ll open our eyes and get the lessons, Life’ll take us right through the levels. Sometimes Life gets tired of the subtle approach though. Nothing like a good swift kick in the stomach from Life to get your attention and make you realize you’re not performing at the level you could and should be. Life determines that you’re not getting the lessons. Oh you think you’re maxed out and doing all that you possibly can. You think you’re being the best that you can be, then Whamo! Life gets your attention and provides you a clear, undeniable picture. Life says to you "...son, you can be better!"

Got it! And so I shall kids. And so I shall.

Thanks Life.

On the way out I want to switch things up a bit. Growing past the familiar "Life it Up!" epitaph to something a little more forward looking and thinking. Life has spoken, and says I can be better. And so... being the student of Life that I am I enthusiastically and filled with excitement say to you and Life...

Live some. Love some. Learn some. Everyday.  


Success: By The Numbers
By Tony Marino, Ph.D.

What is "success"? Why does it seem everyone wants "success"? What does "success" mean to you? Do you need "success"? Do you deserve "success"?

That's this week's focus!

Success. Where does it begin and what is it really?

According to Roget's International Thesaurus...

Success is...





When one examines the term "success" in this fashion, one can begin to see that "success" can be a fairly tall order. I mean success in most cases (our lives of simple normality), we were not simply born of it. Success must be achieved. Accomplishment must be attained. Prosperity must be built. Superiority must be earned. Victory must be won.

I am regularly blown away when I witness so many well-intentioned people try their hand at landing success right here on the NET; only to stumble and bumble through the massive quantities of gibberish found upon the browsers of millions of desktops and notebooks across the globe.

As I answer my hundreds of emails every week, I preach the same message time and again.

My sermon goes something like this...

Unless you have boat-loads of money to burn, you must build your structure one brick at a time. Time is the key.

Today's marketer consists of two separate categories...

Category #1

If you possess pockets deeper than the Grand Canyon itself,


You can easily and quite swiftly generate instant awareness about your product or service.  

Category #2  

If you are like most people and fit snugly into the upper 90% that must work to make a living,  


You must first begin to practice the following disciplines to make the most of your initial e-business efforts:  

1. Learn About Yourself...  

What makes you tick? What turns you on? What turns you off? And, most importantly, what are you most passionate about?  

2. Rely On Patience...  

Remind yourself again and again that your new e-business adventure will take a certain amount of time to build. Anything worthy of wearing the ribbon of success did not just happened overnight.  

3. Take "Baby Steps"...  

Don't let the mystical world of "Smoke and Mirrors" send you into instant hyperventilation. Savor your e-business delicacy one bite at a time. Don't race from here to there with arrival of every new email opportunity. Work one e-business venture at a time.  

4. Align Yourself With Successful People...  

Remember, "Success breeds success"! If the person or company you are currently following is racing Mach 10 with their hair on fire exuding that "Deer-in-the-headlights" look, run quickly and furiously in any other direction than the one in which they are going. Hang with those that have proven their success and are more than willing to take you under their wing.  

5. Have A Clue...  

If you fail to plan than you plan to fail. Whether on a napkin or square sheet of toilet paper, write down your game plan. Always assume that if you do not write it down, you will forget. How can you sell your product or service if you yourself don't know what you're talking about. View your memoirs as a form of a contract to yourself.


4 Tips to Unleash Your Inner Brilliance and Creativity

If you’ve often wondered if there’s a way to make yourself smarter and more creative, good news – there is! In fact, there are many different things you can do to enhance your creativity and increase your level of intelligence.

Never Stop Learning

If you have a life filled with learning new things, chances are your creativity and general intelligence will be higher, too. Taking a college class in something you’re interested in, or something you don’t know much about can help your mind expand in new directions.

Reading is also an important component of learning. Those who read a variety of things, from biographies and fiction to trade publications and newspapers, are more likely to have the creative areas of their brain stimulated. Reading on your own is always a positive thing, but you can also take a literature course at a local college or join a book club if you enjoy discussing what you’ve read with others.

Take Risks

It’s well-known that taking risks in your daily life can make you smarter and increase your creativity. When you get out of your comfort zone, you’re more likely to learn new things, interact with people who challenge your assumptions, and see problems from a different, more creative point of view. Consider getting a new, more challenging job, traveling somewhere you’ve never been before, applying to get a master’s degree in a new field of study, or taking a course in a language you don’t speak.

Go Somewhere New

It’s said that your environment can greatly affect your creativity and intelligence. If you’re in college or will be in the near future, consider studying abroad. The change in environment and all the little things associated with being in a completely foreign culture is a great way to expand your mind, making you smarter and more creative. If you can’t make such a bold move, think about moving to a different part of town, or taking a new job in a different city. The increase in your intelligence and creativity from such a small change could be surprising.

Take Good Care of Yourself

Sometimes, your brilliance and creativity will suffer because of your physical, mental, or emotional health. To achieve greater intelligence and creativity, it’s important to take care of your body. This means getting enough sleep, drinking enough water, exercising regularly, and eating food that is healthy and nourishing. If you have mental or emotional issues that are causing you problems, it’s important to address them with a licensed therapist or counselor who can help you deal with those issues. If your body and mind aren’t healthy, then it’s difficult to make yourself smarter or more creative.

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Hundred Wise Words For Everyone. Number 28 Is Gold.

An Econ Teacher Gave His Senior High School Students His Personal List Of Wisest Words… And They Make A Lot Of Sense.

  1.         There are plenty of ways to enter a pool. The stairs is not one of them.

2.         Never cancel dinner plans by text message.

3.         Don’t knock it till you try it.

4.         If a street performer makes you stop walking, you owe him a buck.

5.         Always use “we” when referring to your home team.

6.         When entrusted with a secret, keep it.

7.         Don’t under estimate free throws in a game of HORSE.

8.         Just because you can doesn’t mean you should.

9.         Don’t dumb yourself down.

10.     You only get once chance to notice a new haircut.

11.     If you’re staying more than one night, unpack.

12.     Never park in front of a bar.

13.     Expect the seat in front of you to recline. Prepare accordingly.

14.     Keep a picture of your first fish, first car, and first girl/boyfriend.

15.     Hold your heroes to a high standard.

16.     A suntan is earned, not bought.

17.     Never lie to a doctor.

18.     All guns are loaded.

19.     Don’t mention sunburns. Believe me, they know.

20.     The best way to say thanks is to wear it. Even it’s only once.

21.     Take a vacation of your cell phone, internet and TV once a year.

22.     Don’t fill up on bread, no matter how good.

23.     A handshake beats an autograph.

24.     Don’t linger in the doorway. In or out.

25.     If you choose to go in drag, don’t sell yourself short.

26.     If you want to know what makes you unique, sit for a caricature.

27.     Never get a haircut the day of a special event.

28.     Be mindful of what comes between you and the Earth. Always buy good shoes, tires and sheets.

29.     Never eat lunch at your desk if you can avoid it.

30.     When you are with new friends, don’t just talk about old friends.

31.     Eat lunch with the new kids.

32.     When you’re traveling, keep your wits about you. No matter where you are.

33.     It’s never too late for an apology.

34.     Don’t pose with booze. It’s unbecoming.

35.     If you have the right of way. TAKE IT.

36.     You don’t get to choose your own nickname.

37.     When you marry someone, remember you marry the whole family.

38.     Never push someone of a dock.

39.     Under no circumstances should you ask a woman if she’s pregnant.

40.     It is not enough to be proud of your ancestry, live up to it.

41.     Don’t make a scene.

42.     When giving a thank you speech, short and sweet is best.

43.     Know when to ignore the camera.

44.     Never gloat.

45.     Invest in great luggage.

46.     Make time for your mother on her birthday.  It’s a special day for her too.

47.     When opening presents, no one likes a good guesser.

48.     Sympathy is a crutch. Never fake a limp.

49.     Give credit. Take blame.

50.     Suck it up every now and then.

51.     Never be the last one in the pool.

52.     Don’t stare.

53.     Address everyone that carries a gun professionally.

54.     Stand up to bullies. You only have to do it once.

55.     If you’ve made your point, stop talking.

56.     Admit it when you’re wrong.

57.     If you offer help, don’t quit until the job is done.

58.     Look people in the eye when you thank them.

59.     Thank the bus driver.

60.     Never answer the phone at the dinner table.

61.     Forgive yourself for your mistakes.

62.     Know at least one good joke.

63.     Don’t boo. Even the ref is somebody’s son.

64.     Know how to cook one good meal.

65.     Learn to drive manual/stick shift.

66.     Be cool to younger kids. Reputations are built over a lifetime.

67.     It’s okay to go to the movies by yourself.

68.     Dance with your mother/father.

69.     Don’t lose your cool. Especially at work.

70.     Always thank the host.

71.     If you don’t understand, ask before it’s too late.

72.     Know the size of your boyfriend/girlfriend’s clothes.

73.     There’s nothing wrong with a plain t-shirt.

74.     Be a good listener. Don’t just take your turn to talk.

75.     Keep your word.

76.     In college always sit near to the front. You’ll stand out immediately and come grade time it will come in handy.

77.     Carry your mother’s bags. She carried you for nine months.

78.     Be patient with airport security. They are just doing their job.

79.     Don’t be talker in a movie.

80.     The opposite sex likes people who shower.

81.     You are what you do. Not what you say.

82.     Learn how to change a tire.

83.     Be kind. Everyone has a hard fight ahead of them.

84.     An hour with grandparents is time well spent. Ask for advice when you need it.

85.     Don’t litter.

86.     If you have sister, get to know her boyfriend, or vice versa. Your opinion is important.

87.     You won’t always be the strongest or the fastest. But you can be the toughest.

88.     Never call someone before or after 9 am and 9 pm.

89.     Buy the orange properties in Monopoly.

90.     Make the little things count.

91.     Always wear bra to work.

92.     There is a fine line between looking sultry or slutty. Find it.

93.     You’re never too old to need your Mom.

94.     Ladies, if you make decision to wear heels on the first date commit to keeping them on and keeping your trap shut about how much your feet kill.

95.     Know the words of to national anthem.

96.     Your dance moves may not be the best, but I promise making a fool of yourself is more fun than sitting on the bench alone.

97.     Smile at strangers.

98.     Make goals.

99.     Being old is not dictated by your bedtime.

100.  If you HAVE to fight, punch first and punch hard.


Life isn't about keeping score

Life isn't about keeping score. It's not about how many people call you and it's not about who you've dated, are dating, or haven't dated at all. It isn't about who you've kissed, what sport you play, or which guy or girl likes you. It's not about your shoes or your hair or the color of your skin or where you live or go to school. In fact, it's not about grades, money, clothes, or colleges that accept you or not. Life isn't about if you have lots of friends, or if you are alone, and it's not about how accepted or unaccepted you are. Life just isn't about that. But life is about who you love and who you hurt. It's about how you feel about yourself. It's about trust, happiness, and compassion. Life is about avoiding jealousy, overcoming ignorance, and building confidence. It's about what you say and what you mean. It’s about seeing people for who they are and not what they have. Most of all, it is about choosing to use your life to touch someone else's in a way that could never have been achieved otherwise. These choices are what life's about.


Letting go of the old

So many of the people I talk and channel to are in the process of letting go of huge chunks of themselves, and I often think of the analogy of one foot on the dock and another in the boat – and the boat is moving away! Fragile equilibrium, sense of unbalance, as we move from who we were to who we are becoming.

And at this point of enormous change, for it is big, we can perhaps remember that we are the ones who instigated it, we who now find ourselves so surprised by it. Very much like someone who digs a hole in a forest beneath the trees… over time it fills up with leaves, branches – and on his way back that way one day, he falls in to the hole he dug himself, and is shattered to think "Who did this to me? What did I do to deserve this?"

If we can remove blame, regrets and shoulds and musts from our agenda, and incorporate the knowledge that even if we do not feel that way now, we surely knew what we were creating, surely knew that we would all be moving forwards into expansion into Oneness at this momentous time – and in the knowing, we also realized that we would need assistance – and so manifested many who would support us with their love, there in our lives at exactly the right moment, the angels we send to ourselves.

It is uncomfortable – so many of us are experiencing large shifts in our personal lives, in our professional lives, moving across continents to be where we feel we need to be now.. and perhaps the most important for us to remember is that all is well. Nothing is broken, nothing needs to be fixed. We can trust ourselves to do exactly the right thing at the right time, be at the right place at the right time, trust ourselves to know what we want for ourselves by following our inner voice, by allowing it a place in our lives, directing us day by day, moment by moment.

So perhaps – let go of that cliff, there is no real drop, no real scary distance to the sea below – let go and unfurl those wings that you created for this moment, now.

Let go – and fly.


Letting Yourself Making Mistakes Means Making Fewer of Them

By Heidi Grant Halvorson, Ph.D.

While some people seem eager to tackle new challenges, many of us are really just trying to survive without committing any major screw-ups. Taking on something totally new and unfamiliar is understandably frightening, since the odds of making a mistake are good when you are inexperienced. Small wonder that we greet new challenges with so little enthusiasm.

How can we learn to see things differently? How can we shift our thinking, and approach new responsibilities and challenges with more confidence and energy?

The answer is simple, though perhaps a little surprising: Give yourself permission to screw up. Start any new project by saying, "I'm not going to be good at this right away, I'm going to make mistakes, and that's okay." Letting yourself make mistakes means making fewer of them.

How can you reframe your goals in terms of getting better? Here are the three steps:

1.       Start by embracing the fact that when something is difficult and unfamiliar, you will need some time to really get a handle on it. You may make some mistakes, and that's OK.

2.       Remember to ask for help when you run into trouble. Needing help doesn't mean you aren't capable -- in fact, only the very foolish believe they can do everything on their own.

3.       Try not to compare yourself to other people -- instead, compare your performance today to your performance yesterday. Focusing on getting better means always thinking in terms of progress, not perfection.


What kind of a person am I

What kind of a person are you? The same is true of a seamstress, carpenter, accountant, teacher, student, homemaker, lawyer, mechanic, or an engineer or a manager... The question is, Who and what am I? What must I do to be at peace with myself? What can I be, for that is what I must be? A lucky few of us find the answers to these questions fairly early in life, and we work to develop into the people we can be and must be. We do that by looking at our deepest desires, and ask what would bring fulfillment for us. We ask what we would enjoy doing most, what we believe we have the ability to be really good at. What is it that sometimes burns within us to be expressed or done? The answers to what we can be, what we must be, come from within, through asking ourselves these questions.

What kind of a person am I capable of being?


Forget Your Failings and Focus on Your Feats

By Michael Angier

It seems to be human nature to remember the things we messed up more than we do the things we did well. Most of us tend to focus on what’s wrong rather than on what’s right.

Even people with positive attitudes fall into the trap of discounting their successes and inflating their failings.

The fact is, we’re being programmed all the time, and most of it isn’t helpful.

Problems, negative news, complaints and criticisms get more of our attention than accomplishments, good news and compliments.

The wise person understands this and takes charge of his or her programming. They use affirmations, they visualize and they listen to good tapes and read good books.

They spend time with positive, supportive people.

I urge you to incorporate two lists into your life … lists you maintain and review.

Use these lists to help you stay focused on what works instead of spending so much time and energy on what doesn’t.

These two lists are your “Win List” and your “Significant Accomplishments List”.

One of the things my clients are beginning to document are their accomplishments. This helps them to increase their focus on their progress and helps other members of their team be more motivated and inspired.

My team is just getting started and already their progress is substantial.

I highly suggest that you start YOUR “Win List” today. Begin tracking all the good things that happen to you, the things you fix and overcome, the goals achieved, new clarities, etc.

Your “Significant Accomplishments List” is important, too. It may take a while to recollect all the things you’ve achieved and list them for easy, and hopefully, for regular review.

It’s human nature to discount the value of what we’ve done, especially when it didn’t seem too hard for us to achieve. But even if it didn’t require a lot of struggle on your part, it’s still a good thing to put it on the “Significant Accomplishment” List.

Action Point

Get started today building your “Significant Accomplishments List” and your “Win List”. Review them often. Bask in the good things you've drawn into your life. Watch your attitude improve and your accomplishments increase.

What we focus on expands, so let’s focus on the right things. Building and using these two lists will do just that for you.

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The Power of Being Flexible

We live in times of constant and rapid change. Because of this, one of the most important qualities you can develop to succeed in the 21st century is the quality of flexibility. Flexibility means approaching life's circumstances with an open mind ever ready to make course changes.

The opposite of flexibility is rigidity and hard-headedness. The unwillingness to change in the face of new circumstances. You must learn to be flexible because whenever circumstances change, the person that can adapt first will win.

Some people focus on how things "should" be. Things will seldom be as they should be, so focusing on should be's is a waste of time and energy. Should be's are meaningless. The only thing that matters is what is.

Whenever you are trying to accomplish something, don't worry too much about how you "should" go about getting results. Focus on whether you are getting results. Is your approach working? If not, change approaches.

Be open to new ideas and information. One new idea could literally transform your life. It could make or lose you a fortune. That is why reading is so critical to success. Because in the information age, whoever has the best information  and acts on it, wins.

There are three statements that you need to start using more if you want to be more flexible. These statements are tough to use but they will save you time, energy, grief and pain. The first one is, "I was wrong." The second one is, "I made a mistake." And the third one is, "I changed my mind."

Start using these phrases and you'll instantly become more productive. Next time you realize you were wrong, you made a mistake, or you changed your mind about something, say so, and everybody will get on with resolving the problem or achieving the goal.

It's tough to verbalize these things but if you want to accomplish great things, you need to make a decision to put your ego aside. You see, you can either be right or you can be rich. It's your choice.

Admitting you were wrong, you made a mistake, or you changed your mind is not being weak. On the contrary - it's a mark of courage and character. People will look up to you.

Remember, the important thing is to reach your goal. If your attitude is one of knowing that there is always a way and there may be a better way, you will eventually reach your goal in the most unexpected ways.  


Where do you want to be in a year
By Clyde Dennis

Where do you want to be in a year? In five years? In ten years? Is what you’re doing now -- the way you’re living, your friends, your habits, your focus -- Are all of these things moving you in the direction of your goals? How does it look?

Are your habits the kinds of habits that the person you’re going to be in two years would have? Are your friends or associates, or whatever you call the people you hang out with the types of people you’re going to be in five years you will want to know and be with?

What abo ut the things your mind gets hung up on? Your focus. Do you even know what your focus is?

If you and I were sitting together right now (and pretend we are), what would your answer be if I asked you where you’re going? What are you focused on accomplishing or achieving? You are certainly focused on something. Either consciously or your subconscious has chose something for you. Which is it in your case? Did you choose or has the world chosen for you? Have you taken 10 minutes and made a conscious decision about what the definition of your life is going to be? That’s really all it would take. In reality, even less than that.

Think about it. Have you ever been so fed up with something that at one point you just decide—that’s it, no more. I’ve had it! How long did it take you to come to that decision? The real truth is you did it in an instant. It may have taken you years to get to the point where you decided to decide but, the decision itself was made in an instant. A second. You have that same force, power and ability to get yourself moving in the direction of your choosing at any given moment if you would but decide to do so.

Don’t be one who gets ten years further down the road and be left thinking, wondering, wishing you had decided to do something. Do it now. Decide.

Live some. Love some. Learn some. Everyday.


Starting Your Day Like a Champion
(From Ruben's book "Becoming Unstoppable.")

The quality of your state of mind determines the quality of your results in whatever you do. The things you do first thing in the morning set your mental tone for the rest of the day. I challenge you to get radical for the next 30 days. To do something you have never done before.

If you do this for the next 30 days, you will dramatically change your attitude, your focus, your intensity, and will be a different person. Your friends and family will ask you "What happened to you?" Trust me - if you do this for 30 days, you'll want to do it for the rest of your life. What do I have to do you ask?

For the next 30 days:

1. Go to bed 30 minutes earlier - no more late night TV. You'll need to get up early tomorrow.

2. When you go to bed, think about how it will feelwhen you realize your dream.

3. Get up 30 minutes earlier. Don't turn on your computer. These first 30 minutes will set the tone for the rest of your day, and the rest of your life.

4. Take a minute to write down your goals and dreams. You must write your goals down every day. Writing your goals down is an act of commitment that focuses your mind to take action (and in to be successful, action is the name of the game). (1 minute)

5. Take 3 minutes to write down WHY you want those dreams. What's driving you? Get specific. If your WHY is big enough the How will take care of itself. (3 minutes)

6. Get in front of a mirror and read your Champion's Creed Card. Read it with power and passion. Like you mean it. (1 minute)

The Champion's Creed

I am a champion.

I believe in myself.

I have the will to win.

I set high goals for myself.

I surround myself with winners.

I am cool, positive, and confident.

I am willing to pay the price of success.

I love the struggle and the competition.

I am relaxed and in control at all times.

I focus all my energy on the job at hand.

I take responsibility for all of my results.

I have the courage to endure and persist.

I vividly imagine what victory will feel like.

I am a champion and I will win.

7. Close your eyes and vividly imagine what it will feel like when you actually make your dream a reality. Get all your senses involved and allow yourself to get passionate. (5 minutes)

8. Write down the three most important things you must do today to get you closer to your dream - then, do them sometime today! Many people get great results by doing this step the night before. (3 minutes)

9. Read 15-20 minutes from a positive, inspiring, motivating book. (15-20 minutes).

10. On the way to school, rather than listening to the radio, listen to a positive, inspiring, motivating self-development CD (Zig Ziglar, Les Brown, Denis Waitley, Brian Tracy).

I guarantee that if you do this for the next 30 days, your life WILL change. Because your attitude will change.

Put it into action: Start your day with the 30 power minutes.

Reading List

 As a Man Thinketh - James Allen

 Success! the Glen Bland Method - Glenn Bland

 How to Win Friends and Influence People -Dale Carnegie

 Man’s Search for Meaning - Viktor Frankl

 How to Have Power and Confidence in Dealing with People -Les Giblin

 Think & Grow Rich - Napoleon Hill

 Life is Tremendous - Charlie Jones

 See You at the Top -Zig Ziglar

 Personality Plus - Florence Littauer

 You and Your Network - Fred Smith

 The Power of Positive Thinking - Norman Vincent Peale

 Tough Times Never Last but Tough People Do - Robert Schuller

 Slaying The Dragon - Michael Johnson

 Create Your Own Future -Brian Tracy

 Seeds of Greatness -Dennis Waitley

 The Alchemist -Paulo Coelho

 Simple Steps to Impossible Dreams - Kevin Scott

 Becoming A Person of Influence - John Maxwell

 Winning Every Day - Lou Holtz

 Rhinoceros Success - Scott Alexander

 They Call Me Coach - John Wooden

 Awaken The Giant Within - Tony Robbins

 I Dare You - William Danforth

 Dare To Win - Mark Victor Hansen

 The Magic Of Thinking Big - David Schwartz

 Finding The Champion Within - Bruce Jenner

 The Total Money Makeover - Dave Ramsey

 The Power of Full Engagement - Jim Loehr

 My Utmost for His Highest - Oswald Chambers

 The Traveler's Gift - Andy Andrews

 Wooden on Leadership - John Wooden

 General Patton's Principles - Porter Williamson

 Copyright © 2007 Ruben Gonzalez


How to Rebound from Setbacks

By Ruben Gonzalez

When I was 21 years old, I made a decision to take up the sport of luge and pursue my lifelong dream of competing in the Olympic Games.

Many people tried to discourage me. I was told that I was too old, that I would break bones, and that nine out of ten people who took up the luge quit along the way. 

Instead of getting discouraged, I got excited. You see, nine out of ten people quit everything. Nine out of ten people quit sales, they quit medical school, they quit on themselves, and worst of all, they quit on their dreams. I knew from the start that it would be a challenge, but as long as I didn't quit, I would have a chance.

Four years and a few broken bones later I was competing in the Calgary Olympics. I went on to compete in the Albertville Olympics and in the Salt Lake City Olympics - at the age of 39!

You will experience challenges and setbacks on the way to your dream as well. That's just part of the game. But if you want something badly enough, and you are willing to persevere, success is there for the taking. Success is a choice.

Go All The Way

When you make a decision that quitting is not an option, before long you will be in the top 10% in your field because 90% of your competition will quit. Your motto needs to be, "Every day in every way I'm getting better and better, stronger and stronger, closer and closer to my dream!"

Create a "Dream Team"

Ninety percent of success in determined by whom you associate with. Create a "Dream Team" of people who believe in you and will encourage you through tough times.

Give Yourself a Pep Talk

It's easy to get down when things are not going your way. After a bad luge run, sometimes I have to walk up and down the track for 20 minutes giving myself a pep talk. "I can do it, I'm going all the way, I will make it cause there's always a way!" 

When you get down, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and give yourself a pep talk.

Believe in Yourself and Learn from Your Mistakes

High achievers believe that they are destined to accomplish great things. They believe that the challenges they experience are there to teach them the lessons they need to learn in order to complete their "mission" in life. They believe there is no such thing as failure. They either get the desired outcome or else they learn something that will help them win in the future. By thinking this way, discouragement can't get a foothold in their mind.

Most successful people fail their way to the top. You could say I crashed my way to the top! 

Recover Quickly

When winners experience challenges, they don't waste time whining. They keep their eyes on the dream, and then do whatever it takes to recover quickly so they will not lose their momentum. When a boxer gets knocked down, he has only 10 seconds to get back up. If he gets up in eleven seconds, he loses the fight. Remember that the next time you get knocked down.

Next time you get knocked down, decide you will act like a winner. Get up, take action, and make your dream a reality.

Copyright © 2007 Ruben Gonzalez


What surprises me most about humankind?

That they get bored with childhood, they rush to grow up, and then long to be children again.

That they lose their health to make money... and then lose their money to restore their health.

That by thinking anxiously about the future, they forget the present, such that they live in neither the present nor the future.

That they live as if they will never die, and die as though they had never lived.


In this special moment in life ...

Think freely. Practice patience.

Smile often. Savor special moments.

Make new friends. Rediscover old ones.

Tell those you love that you do. Feel deeply.

Forget trouble. Forgive an enemy.

Hope. Grow. Be crazy. Observe miracles.

Make them happen. Discard worry.

Give. Give in. Trust enough to take.

Pick some flowers. Share them. Keep a promise.

Look for rainbows. Gaze at stars.

See beauty everywhere. Work hard. Be wise.

Try to understand. Take time for people.

Make time for yourself. Laugh heartily.

Spread joy. Take a chance. Reach out.

Let someone in. Try something new.

Slow down. Be soft sometimes. Believe in yourself.

Trust others. See a sunrise. Listen to rain. Reminisce.

Cry when you need to. Trust life. Have faith.

Enjoy wonder. Comfort a friend. Have good ideas.

Make some mistakes. Learn from them. Celebrate life.


Let Go of List of Errors

Where did that anxiety you feel in your stomach come from?

You were going along just fine, and then suddenly you began to feel fraught with anxiety about what you said or what you wrote or what you did, about how you could have done it differently, better, how you could have spoken up or not spoken at all, how you may have over-asserted yourself or not asserted yourself enough. The list could go on. There is no lack of recommendations for despair. You find an old list of errors you have made or might have made. You reread and reread this list, as if somehow despite its appearance, it might be helpful to you.

Helpful to you? Of course your anxiety-provoking list is not helpful to you. Quite the opposite. It is to the detriment of you.

You thought you were free of all your anxiety, yet somehow, little by little, it has crept its way back in again. Insidious is this little snake anxiety. How camouflaged it is as it slinks its way in, and you, you are not aware until suddenly it's right in front of you, and it has eaten away at your very foundation. Because of this anxiety, you feel undermined. You have gone back to that old and frayed shopping list. There is nothing worth buying on it.

I shall write you a new shopping list. Throw out the old one once and for all. Replace it with this one that I give to you now. This is your new shopping list I give to you. Understand it well:

"I am a fine person just as I am.

"I mean to do good, and I do.

"I no longer second-guess myself. I leave myself alone. If I don't like now what I said or wrote or did, I cross it out from all lists now, once and for all. What I did or didn't do doesn't matter. It is in the past. I know that the sun comes out, and that rain dries up. I am probably the only person thinking at all about this that I regret. There simply is no percentage in thinking of it, not even once. No matter how recent, no matter how big or how small, when I allow nagging thoughts from the past, I subtract from the strength of loving myself.

"It is important that I love myself. It is important for my sake and for the sake of all around me. I must not regret nor must I find fault with myself, for I am the leader of a parade, and it is for me to lead a calm content parade. My parade goes through all the side streets and the main ones too, and it goes according to the tenor of my thoughts. I want to lead the kind of parade I want to lead. I refuse to lead a dismal one.

"When my thoughts cause me anxiety, I drop those thoughts. I do not keep them for even one minute, for they are destructive thoughts. These thoughts worm their way in and don't want to let go. They have to be evicted, and I am the one who must evict them.

"This is easy to do now. I shake them off. I hardly give them a backward glance, and I say to them clearly:

"Regretful anxiety-provoking thoughts, you have no business being here. You don't belong here. You don't belong anywhere. You are like black-out shades, and you have pulled yourself down, and you have blocked my view.

"You want to keep me small and anxiety-ridden. But I see you now for what you are. You are a malcontent, and you like to step on my sense of well-being and sneak yourself and your other buddy thoughts in.

"You are invasive and erosive.

"You can't stay here any longer. You have to leave, and you have to leave now.

"So now, without further ado, leave. I throw you out, and you cannot come back."



I once told a man that I no longer voted.

He responded by telling me this.
The choice of whether I voted or not was why he waded through rice paddies, toted guns, and fought battles.

It wasn't long afterward that I began to vote again.

I once told a man a lie.

He responded by telling me this.
All of the decisions that he made were based upon the words that I spoke.

I have long since told the truth.

I once became upset over a gift I received, because it wasn't what I wanted.

The giver saw the disappointment in my eyes and told me this. He chose the most valuable gift he could find, because he felt I should have it.

I am since very joyful over each gift that I receive.

A man once told me a secret which I quietly whispered in another friend's ear.

The man told me this, after hearing his own secret repeated. The reason he told me the secret was because he trusted me, not my friend.

I no longer take trust so lightly.

I once gave a gift to a friend and she cried.

I told her it was just a small gift I had found. Her response was that it was not the gift, it was that I had thought of her.

I now give gifts often.

The shiny coin was not to be mine, so I had been told.
But on my way out the door, it found its way in my hand.
When it was discovered that I had stolen the coin,
I was quietly taken aside.

The owner of the coin told me this.
Integrity is given with a choice.

I have since chosen to stand with integrity.

Once I told a man of all of my dreams.

He smiled warmly and even chuckled then asked if I ever planned on living any of them.

I now choose the spending of my days very differently.

I watched a man daily as he walked... head down... so focused.

I was curious and inquired as to why he never looked up.

The look on his face was one of surprise, but he responded.

His world was so structured that he didn't have to look where he placed his foot and there was nothing else to look at.

I make it a point to never stare at my feet, for fear of creating tunnels. I wanted so much to merely be myself, going unnoticed and not draw attention.

And I was told this.

The fact that you do not conform makes you stand out all the more. I'm still thinking about that one.


Get Started and Don't Quit

(From Ruben Gonzalez's book "Becoming Unstoppable.")

There are two parts of courage that lead to success. The first part is the willingness to begin, to act in faith, to step out boldly in the direction of your goals with no guarantee of success. The second part of courage is the willingness to endure, to persist, to refuse to give up, and to keep on working harder than anyone else.

Most people talk themselves out of even going for their dream. And most of the ones who make the attempt quit as soon as the going get tough. It's so sad. Because everyone has the ability to make their dreams come true. It's sad that so few people have the willingness to do what it takes.

That's why we root for the underdog. That's why we love movies like Rocky and Rudy. Because all of us have felt like the underdog at one time or another. Because seeing the underdog win gives us hope that we can win too.

Once you get started on the road to making your dreams a reality, you must make the decision to never quit. The decision to never give up gives you a huge advantage. The person who is most determined usually wins.

A study on goals and perseverance found that 95% of the goals that people set are ultimately achieved, as long as the person didn't give up. Ninety five percent! That's almost a guarantee. A guarantee that if you refuse to quit you will eventually win. The main reason people fail is not because of lack of ability or opportunities. They fail because they lack the inner strength to persist in the face of obstacles and difficulties.

Don't worry about failing. Failing is how you learn. You can fail over and over again, but all it takes is one big success to wipe out all your previous failures. The only time you can't afford to fail is the last time you try. The more you persist, the more you will believe in yourself. And the more you believe in yourself, the more you persist. Your persistence is a measure of how much you believe in yourself and how much you believe in your ability to succeed. If you act as if you are guaranteed to succeed, your belief will grow. Because emotion follows motion.

What you do determines how we will feel. Act in spite of your fears and commit to not quit, and I'll promise you that the winner inside you will burst forth to propel you to victory.

Copyright © 2007 Ruben Gonzalez


Things I Wish I'd Known Before I Went Out In The Real World

1. Never give yourself a haircut after three martinis.
2. Everyone seems normal until you get to know them.
3. Any and all compliments can be handled by simply saying, Thank you," although it helps if you say it     with a SOUTHERN accent.
4. No books will be as good as the ones you loved as a child.
5. Some people are working backstage, some are playing in the orchestra, some are onstage singing, some are in the audience as critics, and some are there to applaud. Know who and where you are.
6. When baking, follow directions. When cooking, go by your own taste.
7. Never continue dating anyone whom is rude to the waiter.
8. Work is good but it's not important!
9. A person needs only two tools: WD-40 and duct tape. If it doesn't move and it should, use WD-40. If it moves and shouldn't, use the tape.
10. If you tell a lie, don't believe it deceives only the other person.
11. The five most essential words for a healthy, vital relationship: "I apologize" and "You are right".
12. When you make a mistake, make amends immediately! It's easier to eat crow while it's still warm.
13. The only really good advice that I remember my mother ever gave me was "Go! You might meet somebody!"
15. Never ride a motorcycle when you're drunk.
16. If your date says that you are too good for him or her; believe it.
17. I've learned to pick my battles. I ask myself: Will this matter one year from now? How about one month? One week? One day?
18. The shortest line is always the longest.
19. At hard times I ask myself, "How do I feel? What do I want?" I use it whenever I'm at loss for words or thoughts.
20. Never pass up an opportunity to use the bathroom.
21. If you woke up breathing, congratulations! You have another chance!
22. If you move far from your family when you're young, consider choosing a career with an airline. Your need to see your family will last a lifetime, as will your travel benefits.
23. Living well really is the best revenge.
24. Being miserable because of a bad or former relationship just proves that the other person was right about you.
25. Never underestimate the kindness of your fellow man.
26. And finally, being happy doesn't necessarily mean everything's perfect. It just means you've decided to look beyond all of the imperfections.

So go out and don't let anyone steal your sunshine!


Creating Opportunity

An enterprising person is one who comes across a pile of scrap metal and sees the making of a wonderful sculpture. An enterprising person is one who drives through an old decrepit part of town and sees a new housing development. An enterprising person is one who sees opportunity in all areas of life. To Your Success…

To be enterprising is to keep your eyes open and your mind active. It's to be skilled enough, confident enough and creative enough and disciplined enough to seize opportunities that present themselves...regardless of the economy.

A person with an enterprising attitude says, "Find out what you can before action is taken." Do your homework. Do the research. Be prepared. Be resourceful. Do all you can in preparation of what's to come.

Enterprising people always see the future in the present. Enterprising people always find a way to take advantage of a situation, not be burdened by it. And enterprising people aren't lazy. They don't wait for opportunities to come to them, they go after the opportunities. Enterprise means always finding a way to keep yourself actively working toward your ambition.

Enterprise is two things. The first is creativity. You need creativity to see what's out there and to shape it to your advantage. You need creativity to look at the world a little differently. You need creativity to take a different approach, to be different.

What goes hand-in-hand with the creativity of enterprise is the second requirement: the courage to be creative. You need courage to see things differently, courage to go against the crowd, courage to take a different approach, courage to stand alone if you have to, courage to choose activity over inactivity.

And lastly, being enterprising doesn't just relate to the ability to make a living. Being enterprising also means feeling good enough about yourself, having enough self worth to want to seek advantages and opportunities that will make a difference in your future. And by doing so you will increase your confidence, your courage, your creativity and your self-worth - your enterprising nature.


Our Choices

We get so mixed up, trying to sort out our lives – our interminable tangles, conundrums, uncertainties, all in our minds all the time, chatter, chatter, choose, choose… and this detracts us from our purpose here. Which is – live life to the fullest and be happy and create the best you can.

We find ourselves focused on and living mediocre lives, our dreams stashed away in places we do not even remember, covered in dust since our childhood. And then we encounter the Law of Attraction, by "accident", start reading about it, attract people who support our vision of our new lives, and hope creeps into our lives, sometimes overnight. Hope that we can have more, hope that we can change things, and most of all, hope that we can be happy.

We have our bad days, our ups and down, but once an awakening starts, once we realize that we are in control, even if only for a moment, we start an unfolding of a whole process, planned and expected for lifetimes.. the unfolding of you into You – the expanded You, the creative You, the You who knows, the You who shines – and most of all the You who can move mountains by simply intending them.

Which of course you can. You are limited by your own limiting thoughts, and nothing else. What you intend you attract, and when you focus on the meadow beyond the padlock in the gate, the meadow becomes all there is – a new life, happiness, expansion. This is no sales jargon – it is who We are, who We can all be. And we change – let go of old constructs, gently move beyond them, shimmering shapes that we are, expanding into the bigger Us. Touching each other in the process, holding each other up, loving unconditionally and understanding each other's processes, the paths we all take to become Us.

There is hope. You are the hope. Live your life fully – live it out loud. It is all within your grasp.


In this special moment in life ...

Think freely. Practice patience.

Smile often. Savor special moments.

Make new friends. Rediscover old ones.

Tell those you love that you do. Feel deeply.

Forget trouble. Forgive an enemy.

Hope. Grow. Be crazy. Observe miracles.

Make them happen. Discard worry.

Give. Give in. Trust enough to take.

Pick some flowers. Share them. Keep a promise.

Look for rainbows. Gaze at stars.

See beauty everywhere. Work hard. Be wise.

Try to understand. Take time for people.

Make time for yourself. Laugh heartily.

Spread joy. Take a chance. Reach out.

Let someone in. Try something new.

Slow down. Be soft sometimes. Believe in yourself.

Trust others. See a sunrise. Listen to rain. Reminisce.

Cry when you need to. Trust life. Have faith.

Enjoy wonder. Comfort a friend. Have good ideas.

Make some mistakes. Learn from them. Celebrate life.


In Good Time

By Ralph Marston

Life always comes to you in good time. There's no need to rush it, and nothing to be gained by attempting to hold it back.

Some things will take longer than you thought they would. Go ahead and get them completed anyway.

Some things will arrive sooner than you anticipated. Go ahead and deal with them when they do.

Make good and thoughtful use of every moment that comes your way. Peacefully let go of any anxiety or resentment about how little time you have or how much time it takes, and simply give your best as time continues to flow.

In good time, you'll get it done. In good time, you'll look back and know without a doubt that you have indeed been moving forward.

The day ahead is filled with opportunities for joy and fulfillment. Give yourself completely to each moment as it comes, and in good time you'll fill your world with richness.

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