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7/1/2018

There it is... now it's gone!
By Bob Perks
 

There it is.  Now it's gone.  A chance to do something, say something, make a difference, or make no difference at all except for having the chance and taking it.

I call them the "Shoulda Dones."

I shoulda done this or I shoulda done that. 

I often talk about living life fully.  Making every moment count.  I tell you not to live this day as if it were your last, but to live it like it was the first day.  A day so full of surprise and opportunity that the mere thought of having another day, makes you jump out of bed excited.

I love the "stop and smell the roses" people.

I love to read about people who saw a need and decided to fill it.

I rejoice in the stories I read about people who stopped running the rat race and did what they loved to do.

I remind you to always kiss them goodnight, tell them "I love you!," say "thanks" and mean it and smile, really smile a lot.

There it is.  Now it's gone.

Today will bring you many chances to...

bullet Say "I love you" or "Thank you!"
bullet Stop what you are doing and do something silly
bullet Buy flowers and give them away to strangers
bullet Pay for a stranger's breakfast
bullet Run ahead to hold the door
bullet Let a driver cut in front of you
bullet Call a friend you haven't spoken with in a long time
bullet Check on a neighbor
bullet Paint, write, or sing out loud
bullet Dance to the music in the mall

Or pull out a lawn chair and sit in the sun when the temperature is so low the tip of your nose freezes.

I had talked about doing it for days and yesterday I did.

It didn't make the news but it made me feel better about myself because I seized the moment. 

Do something today for yourself or someone and tell me about it.

I'm out to do something for someone else today.

It's not just another day, it's another chance!

"There it is... Now it's gone!"

6/24/2018

The Most Successful People in the World do This...

By Ruben Gonzalez

This week you will learn that you have everything you need to realize your dreams as told by our advisor three-time Olympian Ruben Gonzalez. He is on CSF's Advisory Board and such an inspiration to all.

The most successful people in the world are extremely goal oriented. They know exactly what they want and they are always focused on achieving it.

Goals keep you focused. They keep you from drifting through life with no purpose. It does not matter where you came from. What matters is where you're going. And you determine where you're going by what you think about all the time.

The main difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is how they think. Successful people think about what they want and how to get it. Unsuccessful people think and talk about what they don't want. Setting goals helps you keep thinking about where you want to go.

When you have clear goals you are pursuing every day, you'll be more confident and more motivated.

Your goals need to be clear, written, and very specific. They also need to be measurable. You have to know when you have achieved them.

A famous Harvard study highlights the impact goal setting will has on people's lives:

The 1979 MBA Harvard graduating class was asked whether they had clear goals for their future and whether they had written their goals down.

84% had no goals at all. 13% had unwritten goals. And only 3% had clear, written goals.

Ten years later, in 1989, the Harvard MBA graduates were interviewed again. The 13% who had goals but had not written them were making twice as much as the 84% who had no goals at all. The 3% of graduates who had clear, written goals were earning TEN TIMES as much as the other 97% of graduates combined!

It's not voodoo or magic. It's really very simple.

If you set goals and write them down every day, you're focused on your objective, and are much more likely to do things that will help you reach your goal. If you don't write down your goals - or worse, if you don't even have goals, you get sidetracked and waste precious time. You only live once, you might as well go for the gold.

People who set goals live more meaningful and purposeful lives. They are more in control of their destiny and therefore happier. People are happier when they are doing something that is moving them towards something they want. Goal setting is so powerful that I'll bet you get happy just thinking about achieving your goals.

What do you want to achieve?
What do you have a burning desire for?

Once you know exactly what you want and are willing to pay the price to achieve it, success will only be a matter of time.

Start making a habit of writing your goals down every day. It only takes a couple of minutes. Make it a rule that you can't check you morning emails before you've written your goals down. I double-dog dare you to do this! And I guarantee you that if you do it for a year, your life will change dramatically!

Start talking about your goals to other people. See if you can get THEM writing their goals. It's a great way to impact other people's lives. And remember to focus on WHY you have those goals. The WHY is the driving force.

Once you start writing your goals, talking about your goals, and thinking about your goals, you will start turning into a success seeking guided missile that won't miss.

What do you want to be?
What do you want to do?
What do you want to have?

What is something you can do in the next 15 minutes that will help you get closer to your goals?

DO IT...NOW!

Copyright © 2007 Ruben Gonzalez

6/17/2018

39 Key Questions You Must Answer to Discover Your Life Purpose

By Ruben Gonzalez

Benjamin Franklin said, "Most men die at age 25 but are not buried until they are 70." What he meant was, most people give up on their dreams before they are 30 years old, and spend the rest of their lives in "survival mode", living day to day, just trying to get through the day rather than living a life filled with passion, in the pursuit of their dreams. This week we are giving you an excellent essay by our advisor, three-time Olympian Ruben Gonzalez. Please read and take it to the heart.

I'm going to share a sad fact with you. When I speak at an Elementary School and ask my audience, "Do you have dreams?" almost every hand goes up. When I ask the same question at a Middle School, only half of the hands go up. When I ask High School and College students if they have dreams, only a few hands go up. And when I speak to adults at conventions, or corporate events, I'm surprised if anybody raises their hand. In fact, I don't even ask the adults anymore because it just embarrasses them.

Life is tough. There's no doubt about it. And unless you are crystal-clear about where you want to go, crystal-clear about your life purpose, mission, calling, or destiny, and unless you believe it is possible for you to make your dream a reality, you will not act on it and you will revert to "survival mode". Believe me, "survival mode" is not a good place to be.

The whole secret to a successful life is to find out what it is your destiny to do, and then do it.    

I know. I've been there. Ever since the third grade, I dreamed of being an Olympic athlete. But I didn't believe in myself so I never committed to acting on my dream. Eventually I put my Olympic dream up on the shelf. For years, I felt lost. I felt like a nobody. I felt I was not making a difference. I did not like myself. Many years later, while in College, something happened that inspired me to go for it.

When I saw tiny Scott Hamilton win the Gold Medal at the 1984 Sarajevo Olympics, I said to myself, "If that little guy can do it, I can do it too! I WILL be in the next Olympics!" And I made a commitment to do whatever it took to make my dream a reality. All of a sudden, my life had purpose, meaning, and passion! Four years later I was marching in the Opening Ceremonies of the 1988 Calgary Winter Olympics.

We all have a dream in our hearts, and we have all the gifts, talents, and resources we need to make our dreams a reality. But it's up to us to believe in ourselves and it is up to us to do the work. Many times, you will not discover your true gifts until you put yourself through the struggle of chasing your dream. The person you become through the struggle is your gift back to you.

You were created to make your dream come true. It is your life purpose. It is you calling. It's your mission. Your dream will draw on your talents, it will appeal to your highest ideals, and will give you unlimited energy. Having a vision of where you want to be satisfies several universal drives within each of us. Having a dream connects with the spirit that dwells in our heart; it gives us an outlet for our unique gifts and talents, and makes us feel that our lives matter. It makes us feel that we are making a difference.

A dream does several things. It gives you a future focus. Instead of being worried about the frustrations of the present, a dream gets you thinking about the possibilities of the future. A dream gives you energy. Have you ever been so engrossed in a book or in a project that hours seemed like minutes? That's what it feels like when you are passionately chasing your dream. Finally, a dream keeps you from wasting your life. Dreams keep you from wasting your talents, your abilities, and your creativity. They keep you from living a life filled with regret. That terrible "What might have been?" feeling.

You will experience success in life to the extent that you are clear about and commit to achieving your life purpose.

How do you find your purpose? It all comes down to spending some quality time getting to know yourself through some very specific questions. I would suggest going out by yourself for a couple of days to a quiet place, maybe a cabin in the woods, out by a lake, a place where you will not be interrupted and really thinking about it. It might be a good idea to take a notebook to write your thoughts.

Before I give you the questions, I'd like you to think about some people you deeply admire. What is it about them that you admire? Specifically what qualities do you admire in them? I'd be willing to bet that anyone you admire, is someone who is dedicating their life to their unique calling. If you are having trouble thinking of people, just think about people like Michael Jordan, Mother Theresa, Michael Dell, Bill Gates, Sam Walton, Norman Schwarzkopf, and the NASA Astronauts.

What do they have in common? They love what they do. They would do it for free. They are good at what they do. Doing what they do is extremely important to them. They have a sense of destiny, a sense that they are doing what they were born to do.

Well you know what? The experiences you have had up to this point in your life have prepared you for your life purpose. You have unique talents, abilities, interests, and values that only you can bring to greatness. There is a destiny that only you can fulfill. But first you need to find out what you would love to do. What you would be willing to do for free. What you are good at doing. What is extremely important to you. What you were born to do.

So here are the questions. Don't just glance at them. Invest some time in them. Remember, what you learn from them could change your life - and the world! You might want to write each of these questions on a separate index card and spend at least 15 minutes on each one. Fifteen minutes writing your unique answer in your life mission notebook.

Note: Some of these questions are very similar. They are just worded differently. This is done intentionally. I want to stimulate different parts of your brain in order to get closer to your true answer.

What are my greatest talents?

What do others say I am good at? (You want to weigh this heavily because many times our gifts come so naturally to us, that we underestimate them. Your true gifts will be more apparent to others.)

What have my unique life experiences prepared me to do?

What do I love to do so much that I would do it for free? Why? (The why is very important. It will give you clues to your driving force.)

What activities give me satisfaction? Why?

What excites me about life? Why?

What is my secret ambition? Why?

What are my hobbies?

What is my greatest character strength?

What is my greatest passion?

What would I be willing to die for? Why?

What will I feel like when I make it happen?

What will the regret feel like if I don't make it happen?

What am I good at?

What do I get complimented on?

Where have I excelled in the past?

Where have I been successful?

What is important to me?

What do you naturally do well?

What things do you view as your greatest successes? Why?

Is there a cause about which you feel passionate?

What is it about that cause that attracts you to it?

What are the most important lessons you have learned through your experiences about life?

What do you daydream about doing? Why?

What things do you want to be remembered for at the end of your life? Why?

What things will your life be incomplete without? Why?

If you had a year left to live, what would you do differently? Why?

What would you do if you knew you could not fail? Why?

What would you do with your time if you were wealthy? Why?

What do you stand for?

What were you born to do?

What is your unique mission in life?

What do you want you to do?

What are your unique opportunities?

Where can you make a difference?

How do you want to be remembered? Why?

What will outlast you?

What will continue after you are gone?

What legacy do you want to leave behind? Why?

You might want to go through this exercise on an ongoing basis (maybe a couple of questions every day) until you become crystal-clear about your purpose in life.

Remember, you can't make your dream come true if you don't even know what it is. If you can't see it, you can't get it. Once you see it, dedicate your life to making it a reality. Give yourself to your vision. You are worthy of it. It's why you're here. It's how you will make a difference in the world. It's how you'll be remembered. It's your legacy.

So? Are you going to do this or not?

If you do, you are making a BIG mistake!

DO THIS EXERCISE! If you don't, you have no one but yourself to blame for not realizing your dreams!

I don't care who you are. I don't care if you are a CEO or the President of the United States! I don't care if last week you climbed Mt. Everest. You need to do this. You need to find out what your next dream will be!

Otherwise you are sentencing yourself to a life of mediocrity.

Copyright © 2007 Ruben Gonzalez

6/10/2018

39 Key Questions You Must Answer to Discover Your Life Purpose

By Ruben Gonzalez

Benjamin Franklin said, "Most men die at age 25 but are not buried until they are 70." What he meant was, most people give up on their dreams before they are 30 years old, and spend the rest of their lives in "survival mode", living day to day, just trying to get through the day rather than living a life filled with passion, in the pursuit of their dreams. This week we are giving you an excellent essay by our advisor, three-time Olympian Ruben Gonzalez. Please read and take it to the heart.

I'm going to share a sad fact with you. When I speak at an Elementary School and ask my audience, "Do you have dreams?" almost every hand goes up. When I ask the same question at a Middle School, only half of the hands go up. When I ask High School and College students if they have dreams, only a few hands go up. And when I speak to adults at conventions, or corporate events, I'm surprised if anybody raises their hand. In fact, I don't even ask the adults anymore because it just embarrasses them.

Life is tough. There's no doubt about it. And unless you are crystal-clear about where you want to go, crystal-clear about your life purpose, mission, calling, or destiny, and unless you believe it is possible for you to make your dream a reality, you will not act on it and you will revert to "survival mode". Believe me, "survival mode" is not a good place to be.

The whole secret to a successful life is to find out what it is your destiny to do, and then do it.    

I know. I've been there. Ever since the third grade, I dreamed of being an Olympic athlete. But I didn't believe in myself so I never committed to acting on my dream. Eventually I put my Olympic dream up on the shelf. For years, I felt lost. I felt like a nobody. I felt I was not making a difference. I did not like myself. Many years later, while in College, something happened that inspired me to go for it.

When I saw tiny Scott Hamilton win the Gold Medal at the 1984 Sarajevo Olympics, I said to myself, "If that little guy can do it, I can do it too! I WILL be in the next Olympics!" And I made a commitment to do whatever it took to make my dream a reality. All of a sudden, my life had purpose, meaning, and passion! Four years later I was marching in the Opening Ceremonies of the 1988 Calgary Winter Olympics.

We all have a dream in our hearts, and we have all the gifts, talents, and resources we need to make our dreams a reality. But it's up to us to believe in ourselves and it is up to us to do the work. Many times, you will not discover your true gifts until you put yourself through the struggle of chasing your dream. The person you become through the struggle is your gift back to you.

You were created to make your dream come true. It is your life purpose. It is you calling. It's your mission. Your dream will draw on your talents, it will appeal to your highest ideals, and will give you unlimited energy. Having a vision of where you want to be satisfies several universal drives within each of us. Having a dream connects with the spirit that dwells in our heart; it gives us an outlet for our unique gifts and talents, and makes us feel that our lives matter. It makes us feel that we are making a difference.

A dream does several things. It gives you a future focus. Instead of being worried about the frustrations of the present, a dream gets you thinking about the possibilities of the future. A dream gives you energy. Have you ever been so engrossed in a book or in a project that hours seemed like minutes? That's what it feels like when you are passionately chasing your dream. Finally, a dream keeps you from wasting your life. Dreams keep you from wasting your talents, your abilities, and your creativity. They keep you from living a life filled with regret. That terrible "What might have been?" feeling.

You will experience success in life to the extent that you are clear about and commit to achieving your life purpose.

How do you find your purpose? It all comes down to spending some quality time getting to know yourself through some very specific questions. I would suggest going out by yourself for a couple of days to a quiet place, maybe a cabin in the woods, out by a lake, a place where you will not be interrupted and really thinking about it. It might be a good idea to take a notebook to write your thoughts.

Before I give you the questions, I'd like you to think about some people you deeply admire. What is it about them that you admire? Specifically what qualities do you admire in them? I'd be willing to bet that anyone you admire, is someone who is dedicating their life to their unique calling. If you are having trouble thinking of people, just think about people like Michael Jordan, Mother Theresa, Michael Dell, Bill Gates, Sam Walton, Norman Schwarzkopf, and the NASA Astronauts.

What do they have in common? They love what they do. They would do it for free. They are good at what they do. Doing what they do is extremely important to them. They have a sense of destiny, a sense that they are doing what they were born to do.

Well you know what? The experiences you have had up to this point in your life have prepared you for your life purpose. You have unique talents, abilities, interests, and values that only you can bring to greatness. There is a destiny that only you can fulfill. But first you need to find out what you would love to do. What you would be willing to do for free. What you are good at doing. What is extremely important to you. What you were born to do.

So here are the questions. Don't just glance at them. Invest some time in them. Remember, what you learn from them could change your life - and the world! You might want to write each of these questions on a separate index card and spend at least 15 minutes on each one. Fifteen minutes writing your unique answer in your life mission notebook.

Note: Some of these questions are very similar. They are just worded differently. This is done intentionally. I want to stimulate different parts of your brain in order to get closer to your true answer.

What are my greatest talents?

What do others say I am good at? (You want to weigh this heavily because many times our gifts come so naturally to us, that we underestimate them. Your true gifts will be more apparent to others.)

What have my unique life experiences prepared me to do?

What do I love to do so much that I would do it for free? Why? (The why is very important. It will give you clues to your driving force.)

What activities give me satisfaction? Why?

What excites me about life? Why?

What is my secret ambition? Why?

What are my hobbies?

What is my greatest character strength?

What is my greatest passion?

What would I be willing to die for? Why?

What will I feel like when I make it happen?

What will the regret feel like if I don't make it happen?

What am I good at?

What do I get complimented on?

Where have I excelled in the past?

Where have I been successful?

What is important to me?

What do you naturally do well?

What things do you view as your greatest successes? Why?

Is there a cause about which you feel passionate?

What is it about that cause that attracts you to it?

What are the most important lessons you have learned through your experiences about life?

What do you daydream about doing? Why?

What things do you want to be remembered for at the end of your life? Why?

What things will your life be incomplete without? Why?

If you had a year left to live, what would you do differently? Why?

What would you do if you knew you could not fail? Why?

What would you do with your time if you were wealthy? Why?

What do you stand for?

What were you born to do?

What is your unique mission in life?

What do you want you to do?

What are your unique opportunities?

Where can you make a difference?

How do you want to be remembered? Why?

What will outlast you?

What will continue after you are gone?

What legacy do you want to leave behind? Why?

You might want to go through this exercise on an ongoing basis (maybe a couple of questions every day) until you become crystal-clear about your purpose in life.

Remember, you can't make your dream come true if you don't even know what it is. If you can't see it, you can't get it. Once you see it, dedicate your life to making it a reality. Give yourself to your vision. You are worthy of it. It's why you're here. It's how you will make a difference in the world. It's how you'll be remembered. It's your legacy.

So? Are you going to do this or not?

If you do, you are making a BIG mistake!

DO THIS EXERCISE! If you don't, you have no one but yourself to blame for not realizing your dreams!

I don't care who you are. I don't care if you are a CEO or the President of the United States! I don't care if last week you climbed Mt. Everest. You need to do this. You need to find out what your next dream will be!

Otherwise you are sentencing yourself to a life of mediocrity.

Copyright © 2007 Ruben Gonzalez

6/3/2018

A Mind Made Up

Because you are good and caring doesn't mean that you have to waste your breath. In the relative world, people may consider what you have to say according to its value or their value of you.

Too often it happens that your pearls of wisdom are seemingly tossed away. You may be absolutely right, and still your wisdom is tossed away as if it were nothing at all.

You may even state the obvious. It is as if you point out a misspelling. The person you point the misspelling out to says: "I like the way I spell this word. It feels right to me." You could bring in the dictionary, and the person wouldn't want to concede because he likes to do things the way he does them. What is this?

You want to help your child or a friend. They may even have asked for your advice. And you give it. You mean to make their life go more smoothly or even save them grief. Let's face it, they want to do it their way, which is often the hard way. They want to do it their way, as if something about their way is sacred. They will hang on to their way for dear life. The fact is they don't want to hear what you have to say. They like their misspellings. You could be a thousand per cent right, and still, they like their misspellings.

And you who are nodding your head right now and perhaps clucking with your tongue, do you not also have a soft spot in your heart for your misspellings?

You say you are listening to your heart. I say you may be holding onto an idea in your head. You're protecting your infallibility. You will accept praise with alacrity, but not advice, even when you invited it. You have your mind made up. Your mind made up is a closed mind, dear ones. Sometimes it has happened that you don't even listen to your own sage advice.

It is like you want to go to San Francisco in a hurry, and a truck driver marks on a map for you the route he takes twice a month, and then you say to yourself: "But I like it this other way."

Of course, you are free to go to San Francisco by any route you like and be late, and yet why did you ask the truck driver for his advice?

You have free choice to listen or not listen. You have the choice to waste someone else's time and your own or not.

Perhaps you could kindly make clear in advance that you would like to know what is good about the decision you have already made.

On the other hand, if you do honestly want to learn something, and the free advice asked for and given isn't what you like, if you are sincere, you can ask questions like: "Why do you suggest this? How do you see the two different scenarios? What outcome do you see ...?"

When you ask for more information, whatever you decide, you have honored the person who honored you.

If you are the advice-giver, and your advice is true, and the other person doesn't listen, can't or won't, who has the difficulty? It is not the other person's difficulty. It is yours.

Value yourself as much as you value the person who has asked for your input and whom you have wanted to help. You are worth the time you give away to someone else. Make good use of your time. If you are repeatedly asked for your assessment, and your response is repeatedly glossed over, then it's time you gave yourself some good advice.

Source URL: http://www.heavenletters.org/a-mind-made-up.html

5/27/2018

Forget Your Failings and Focus on Your Feats

By Michael Angier

It seems to be human nature to remember the things we messed up more than we do the things we did well. Most of us tend to focus on what’s wrong rather than on what’s right.

Even people with positive attitudes fall into the trap of discounting their successes and inflating their failings.

The fact is, we’re being programmed all the time, and most of it isn’t helpful.

Problems, negative news, complaints and criticisms get more of our attention than accomplishments, good news and compliments.

The wise person understands this and takes charge of his or her programming. They use affirmations, they visualize and they listen to good tapes and read good books.

They spend time with positive, supportive people.

I urge you to incorporate two lists into your life … lists you maintain and review.

Use these lists to help you stay focused on what works instead of spending so much time and energy on what doesn’t.

These two lists are your “Win List” and your “Significant Accomplishments List”.

One of the things my clients are beginning to document are their accomplishments. This helps them to increase their focus on their progress and helps other members of their team be more motivated and inspired.

My team is just getting started and already their progress is substantial.

I highly suggest that you start YOUR “Win List” today. Begin tracking all the good things that happen to you, the things you fix and overcome, the goals achieved, new clarities, etc.

Your “Significant Accomplishments List” is important, too. It may take a while to recollect all the things you’ve achieved and list them for easy, and hopefully, for regular review.

It’s human nature to discount the value of what we’ve done, especially when it didn’t seem too hard for us to achieve. But even if it didn’t require a lot of struggle on your part, it’s still a good thing to put it on the “Significant Accomplishment” List.

Action Point

Get started today building your “Significant Accomplishments List” and your “Win List”. Review them often. Bask in the good things you've drawn into your life. Watch your attitude improve and your accomplishments increase.

What we focus on expands, so let’s focus on the right things. Building and using these two lists will do just that for you.

Source URL: http://SuccessNet.org

5/20/2018

Are You a "Can-Do" Person?

By Michael Angier

Sad but true. When it comes to the people who can be counted upon to get a job done, correctly and on time, the numbers are few.

In my experience, out of a hundred people, the number of get-it-done people can be measured in the single digits.

The good news is if you resolve to become one of these people, you'll easily stand out from the crowd.

Of course there are large numbers of people who manage to hold onto their job simply by doing their job. But I'm talking about working unsupervised. I'm talking about taking the initiative, setting a goal or taking on a project, and sticking with it until it's accomplished.

The vast majority of people can show up for a job they dislike but can't seem to set and achieve goals on their own.

And that's what separates the winners from the spectators. 

I have a plaque that reads, "There are three kinds of people: those who make it happen, those who watch it happen and those who wonder what happened."

In terms of getting it done, I think there are four kinds of people:

·         Those who never start. 

·         Those who start but give up too quickly.

·         Those who start, work hard and hang in there, but aren't flexible enough with their strategies to complete the project. 

·         Those few who start and continue to persist with a willingness to change tactics in order to get it done.

Determine to be one of the few who do instead of the many who don't. Be your word. Do what you resolve to do …every time.

In doing so, you'll develop a habit of completion. You will earn a reputation for being someone who can be counted upon to "get it done."

Source URL: http://SuccessNet.org  

5/13/2018

Acceptance and Accountability

By Chuck Gallozzi

Do you steer by the light of the stars or the lights of each passing ship?

How good a seafarer are you? Are you the captain of your destiny or is your ship adrift in the sea of life? Have you carefully charted your course or are you aimlessly following others? No wind can help the ship that is bound for nowhere. And at the end of your voyage, you wont be asked about the storms you encountered, but whether or not you reached your destination. If you're unclear about where your ship is heading, don't panic; there's still time to refer to the map in the Captains Quarters (your mind). To navigate your way, you will need the help of your shipmates: acceptance, accountability, aspiration, attitude, aim, action, and achievement.

Acceptance and Accountability

Most of us are damaged goods. Imperfect parents raised us and flawed teachers educated us. Malicious peers taunted us. Were badly bruised and still in pain. Our trauma is holding us back, preventing us from reaching our potential. Our first step on the path to success is to stop blaming others and our circumstances. We cannot change the past, so we have to ACCEPT it and work with what we have. And what we have is infinite potential!

There's no point in blaming our circumstances or others for our lack of success because blame doesn't advance us. We cannot control others or events; we can only control our own thoughts and actions. So it is time to assume ACCOUNTABILITY, to take responsibility for our own success. For as Anne Byrhhe wrote, Every action we take, everything we do, is either a victory or defeat in the struggle to become what we want to be.

We have enormous power within our grasp. It is expressed by the choices we make. Consider the powerful poem of Edgar A. Guest,

You are the person who has to decide.
Whether you will do it or toss it aside;
You are the person who makes up your mind.
Whether you will lead or will linger behind.
Whether you will try for the goal that's afar.
Or just be contented to stay where you are.
Aspiration and attitude

ASPIRATION, or ambition, is the desire to improve your life. I'm sure you agree with C. Archie Danielson who said, Intelligence without ambition is a bird without wings. Aspiration is like taking a deep breath and optimistically jumping into the adventure of life. Aspiration stokes the fire of enthusiasm. When you want to succeed, you get excited about preparing for success. Acceptance, accountability, aspiration, enthusiasm, and optimism fuse to form the ATTITUDE of success.

Aim, action, achievement

Now that you are fired up to embark on your journey to success, you are ready to set your AIM. You are ready to focus on a goal. As you do so, life becomes worthwhile, for as Maxwell Maltz wrote, People who say that life is not worthwhile are really saying that they themselves have no personal goals which are worthwhile. Get yourself a goal worth working for. Better still, get yourself a project. Always have something ahead of you to look forward to -- to work for and hope for.

When choosing a goal, always pick one that will make you stretch. Place your goal out of reach, but never out of sight. It should be worthwhile and difficult so you will grow. But at the same time it must be achievable. An unrealistic goal can discourage you and hurt your progress.

It is important to write down your goals. Also, state them in positive terms. For example, if you want to stop smoking, don't write I will stop smoking. Don’t focus on the negative behavior you want to eliminate, but on the positive behavior you want to begin. So, you can write it as I am now leading a healthy lifestyle. I eat nutritional meals and exercise. Focus on the new you, not the old you. When writing your goals use the present tense (I am), not the future (I will), unless you have a specific date in mind. The reason for these considerations is because as you focus on your goals they will sink into your subconscious mind, which is a goal-seeking mechanism. It will automatically seek to achieve the images before it. So don't feed it pictures of the old you, just the new you. And let it know that this is not a plan that will begin at some vague date in the future (I will), but now (I am).

You also need to set a deadline for your goal, for instance, I will finish my school report by August 16, 1999. For best results, make your goal as specific as possible: I will have a bibliography of at least 17 sources, use at least 25 quotations, have a table of Contents, section headings, and write 25 pages or more in my school report, which I will finish by August 17, 1999. Can you see the difference it makes? So can your subconscious mind! Also, when you go into such detail, you are making your goal measurable. On August 17th, all you have to do is count the number of sources, quotations, and pages to see how successful you were at achieving your goal.

Once you have set your goal, it is time to break it into small tasks that you can easily do and schedule. Returning to our example, you can schedule one day to get your quotations, three days to do research and build your bibliography, one day to work on an outline (which will become your Table of Contents), and so on. These tasks, or ACTION steps are your keys to success, your road map to your goal. Discover, as Alexis Carrel did that Life leaps like a geyser for those who drill through the rock of inertia.

Finally, as you work on your plan for success, continually monitor your progress, analyze your obstacles, and adjust your plan so even if you change your route, you will remain on target. The result? ACHIEVEMENT, or accomplishment! People may doubt what you say, but they will believe what you do, so let’s start planning our new life today. Look out world, here we come!

Source URL: http://www.personal-development.com/chuck

5/6/2018

Are You a Spider or a Lion?

By Karen Schmidt

When it comes to change, are you a spider or a lion? Do you sit back like the spider and wait for things to come to you or do you go out and hunt for your opportunities like the lion? When it comes to workplace change we need to have the attitude of the Lion. If we sit back and wait to see what happens we will usually be disappointed. There is an old saying that goes “good things come to those who wait” but today we need to remember that the only things left to those who wait are the things left behind by those who hustle!

In the jungle the “hustlers” are the Lions. They are the kings of the jungle for a good reason. If you want to be the king of your workplace jungle then you need to learn the difference between the spider and the lion. The lion is proactive and the spider is reactive. So what do these terms mean?

Proactive
A proactive person is someone who understands that they are in control of what happens to them in life. They take initiative and are responsible for their own actions. A proactive person has a high level of self esteem that is not affected by what other people think. Proactive people are driven by their values.

Reactive
The reactive person is the type with a "wait and see" attitude. They don't actively make decisions or take action but instead react to the decisions and actions of others. They are easily influenced by the behavior of others and their mood is determined by how others treat them. Reactive people are driven by their emotions.

When it comes to dealing with change, we need to be proactive. If you wait around hoping other people will do things to make the change easier for you then you will be disappointed. Being proactive does not mean you have to be pushy, aggressive or unreasonable. It simply means taking action to make things happen.

Proactive people are the ones who initiate change rather than being the victims of change. If a proactive person doesn’t agree with a change they don’t complain about it. No, they go out and hunt down another way to achieve the same result. In the mean time, the reactive person is using all their energy to fight the change and, lets face it, most of the time they don’t win.

So if you want to take charge of your career what sort of action do you need to take? Here is a list of suggestions that will turn you into a proactive person.

●   Make suggestions to your manager on small ways to improve productivity. Little things add up!

●   When a mistake happens, be open about it. Then take the time to analyze why it happened and work out ways of preventing it in the future 

●   Keep up to date with what’s happening in your industry so you can anticipate opportunities  

   Develop a network of contacts so that if the worst does happen and you lose your job you will have plenty of new opportunities

If you want to be s ome one who benefits from change at work learn the lesson of the Lion. Become a proactive person and you will guarantee your success at work well into the future.

Source URL: www.letsgrow.com.au  

4/29/2018

Thoughts for the Times

You can't be all things to all people.
You can't do all things at once.
You can't do all things equally well.
You can't do all things better than everyone else.
Your humanity is showing just like everyone else's.

So…

You have to find out who you are, and be that.
You have to decide what comes first, and do that.
You have to discover your strengths, and use them.
You have to learn not to compete with others because no one else is in the contest for being you.

Then…

You will have learned to accept your own uniqueness.
You will have learned to set priorities and make decisions.
You will have learned to live with your limitations.
You will have learned to give yourself the respect that is due, and you'll be a most vital mortal.

Dare to Believe…

That you are a wonderful, unique person.
That you are a once-in-all-history event.
That it's more than a right, it's your duty, to be who you are.
That life is not a problem to solve, but a gift to cherish.
And you'll be able to stay one up on what used to get you down.

4/22/2018

If Tomorrow Never Comes

If I knew it would be the last time that I see you walk out the door, I would give you a hug and kiss and call you back for one more.

If I knew it would be the last time I'd hear your voice lifted up in praise, I would video tape each action and word, so I could play them back day after day.

If I knew it would be the last time, I could spare an extra minute or two to stop and say "I love you," instead of assuming, you would know I do.

If I knew it would be the last time I would be there to share your day, well I'm sure you'll have so many more, so I can let just this one slip away.

For surely there's always tomorrow to make up for an oversight, and we always get a second chance to make everything right.

There will always be another day to say our "I love you's", and certainly there's another chance to say our "Anything I can do's?"

But just in case I might be wrong, and today is all I get, I'd like to say how much I love you and I hope we never forget, Tomorrow is not promised to anyone, young or old alike, and today may be the last chance you get to hold your loved one tight.

So if you're waiting for tomorrow, why not do it today?

For if tomorrow never comes, you'll surely regret the day, that you didn't take that extra time for a smile, a hug, or a kiss and you were too busy to grant someone, what turned out to be their one last wish.

So hold your loved ones close today, whisper in their ear, tell them how much you love them and that you'll always hold them dear, take time to say "I'm sorry," "please forgive me," "thank you" or "it's okay".

And if tomorrow never comes, you'll have no regrets about today.

4/15/2018

May you...

May you find serenity and tranquility in a world you may not always understand.

May the pain you have known and the conflict you have experienced give you the strength to walk through life facing each new situation with courage and optimism.

Always know that there are those whose love and understanding will always be there, even when you feel most alone

May you discover enough goodness in others to believe in a world of peace.

May a kind word, a reassuring touch, a warm smile be yours every day of your life, and may you give these gifts as well as receive them.

Remember the sunshine when the storm seems unending.

Teach love to those who know hate, and let that love embrace you as you go into the world.

May the teaching of those you admire become part of you, so that you may call upon them.

Remember, those whose lives you have touched and who have touched yours are always a part of you, even if the encounters were less than you would have wished. It is the content of the encounter that is more important than it’s form.

May you not become too concerned with material matters, but instead place immeasurable value on the goodness in your heart.

Find time in each day to see the beauty and love in the world around you. Realize that each person has limitless abilities, but each of us is different in our own way.

What you may feel you lack in one regard may be more than compensated for in another. What you feel you lack in the present may become one of your strengths in the future.

May you see your future as one filled with promise and possibility.

May you always feel loved.

4/8/2018 

Finding Your True Self 

By Chuck Gallozzi

Life's Greatest Adventure Is Discovering Our True Self. The question is, then, how do we uncover, recover, and discover our psychological and spiritual True Selves? We are all capable of doing it, but most of us will need gentle guidance and help along the way. If you wish to join me on this amazing adventure, here are some guide books that will take you by the hand and lead you to yet undreamed of adventure and discovery. Check the books out on the Internet; find one that matches your disposition, get it and dive in!

Once upon a time, ten men were making their way across a jungle. After arriving at a wide, swiftly moving, six-foot deep stream, they decided to cross it. After reaching the opposite bank, one of the men counted the members, forgetting to include himself. He shouted, "There are just nine of us! Someone is missing!"

Another man decided to check, so he recounted the group, but also forgot to include himself. "Yes, you are right," he said, "there are just nine of us, so someone is missing." One by one, the others also counted, each forgetting to include himself. Soon they were crying because they suspected one of their members perished in the stream.

Before returning to the story, take a moment to think of five great people, five people that you respect and admire. Did you think of five people that you look up to?

Why didn't you include yourself in the list of five people? Aren't you just like each of the ten men in the jungle who failed to include himself? Virtually all people are guilty of this flaw. That is, when they consider illustrious people, they never include themselves.

That's because most people don't realize how magnificent they are. The few people who do are called self-realized, or said to have reached self-realization or enlightenment. These are other ways of saying they have discovered their True Self. Embarking on the journey of self-discovery is the greatest adventure that life has to offer.

We can loosely divide the way we experience life into four categories or levels. First we have the pessimists. They believe life is a struggle, full of suffering, and pointless. Next we have the optimists. They believe difficulties can be overcome, enjoy life, and have a reason for living. Whenever they are unhappy with their circumstances, they work on self-improvement. Their deeper understanding of life brings them many rewards, including happiness.

But some adventurers continue on, exploring a deeper level. They make exciting discoveries. They learn that they are not what they thought they were! They thought they had self-doubt, fears, and limitations, but they uncovered their True Self, which knows no limits. Unlike optimists that are satisfied with merely repairing a damaged self, these adventurers work on remembering, reclaiming, and restoring their perfect self, which was always there, waiting to be claimed.

Our True Self is our true nature, and it is clearly visible in infants and uncorrupted young children. Infants are trusting, loving, courageous, curious, and cheerful. They are explorers, adventures, and discoverers. But as they are raised by parents and guided by teachers and society, they are knowingly or unwittingly programmed to believe they have many weaknesses and imperfections. This transformation from perfection to a problem- plagued life represents the collapse of our True Self and the creation of our False Self, and it happens so quickly that we soon forget who and what we really are.

The adventurers who take the trouble to discover their True Self are well rewarded. For the ordinary happiness known by optimists gives way to endless joy and freedom. Adventurers have discovered what Czechoslovakians have long known, "The person who God shows a treasure to must dig it out himself." (Czechoslovakian proverb)

Just as there is a formidable chasm between our True and False Selves, there is a huge gap between the third and fourth levels of experience. The first three levels are psychological, but for the fourth and final level, we must leave the realm of psychology and enter the field of spirituality. Yet, doing so is perfectly natural and scientific. After all, what am I? Am I not a swarm of incessantly moving molecules? How is that any different from you?

And what are molecules? Aren't they composed of atoms? But what are atoms? They are composed of subatomic particles. As we delve deeper and deeper into the ultimate composition of the universe and the 'glue' that holds it together, we reach the nonphysical, which we can label as immateriality, energy, or spirit.

So, what am I? At my deepest level, hidden in the recesses of my being, I am spirit. The word 'spirit' is just another label. We can choose to use different words. Some call it God. I choose to call it LIFE (It's the same thing). Life expresses itself through me, you, and everything in the universe. We are the notes in its majestic symphony. I can no more be separated from life than sunbeams can be separated from the sun.

So, the greatest adventure that life offers us is the discovery of our spiritual True Self. This discovery awaits all spiritual seekers. It is not an intellectual exercise but a life- transforming experience. It is akin to a near death experience; it completely liberates us.

The pessimist is locked in a prison cell of his own making. The optimist has unlocked the door of his cell and his free to roam anywhere in the prison. The adventurer who has discovered his psychological True Self found the key to the prison and is free to roam anywhere in the city and country. But the seeker who discovers his spiritual True Self knows unabated freedom. He is free to roam anywhere on earth and beyond.

Adventurers who discovered their psychological True Self, see themselves in a very positive light. They may see themselves as brilliant scientists, world class athletes, nurturing parents or teachers, inspiring leaders, social activists. But for seekers who found their spiritual True Self, these descriptions or labels are far too restrictive. For they see themselves and their possibilities as boundless as the universe. Although adventurers experience love, spiritual seekers become love itself, for that is the nature of our spiritual True Self. These enlightened beings radiate compassion wherever they go, for they are profoundly in love with all that is. As for freedom, Walter A. Keers explains, "If you are enlightened, you are not free as some people would say, but you are freedom itself. Not like a bird in the sky, but like the sky itself."  

Source URL: http://www.personal-development.com/chuck/finding-true-self.ht

4/1/2018

Are You Managing Your Time With Activity Or Productivity?

What is the difference?

Rich, poor, celebrity or unknown, we are all blessed with 24 hours a day. You probably know someone, who seems to do everything in the world and you wonder how they can. You also know someone who seems to do nothing every day, yet can not seem to add anything more to their day.

The difference in this time management is surprisingly simple. The difference between the person who seems to be able to do a week’s worth of work in a day and the one who has no time is all a matter of scheduling and realizing what is truly important. It is a matter of changing your productivity to match what needs to be done as part of the big picture rather than what needs to be done in the now.

How does seeing the big picture help?

Here is a time management example, imagine your aunt is coming in a week to visit you. You have not seen her in a long time, so you want the house looking nice. You are hoping you can get it clean in a week. She calls and tells you plans have changed; she is going to be there in tomorrow. You were not certain how to get the house clean in a week, yet suddenly you find either a way to clean the house or make it presentable in a day.

What changed?

The difference was you could not find ways to delay, you were forced to manage your time. You realized the what parts of cleaning your house were actually important. You accepted that some things could not be fixed in the time allowed and changed what could. You knew what needed to be done in the time allowed and did it, without question or delay.

Are you productive or active?

Moving paperwork from here to there, only to move it again later is being active. Putting papers that actually require work in an inbox, filing papers you need later, and throwing away any paperwork you do not need away is being productive. Rather than deal with all your clients focus on the clients the buy from you. Instead of organizing all your emails, decide on what is really important and eliminate the rest.

What is really important?

The big picture, the long term goal is what is really important. More sales is what is important to a salesperson, so rather than call unqualified customers, the goal is finding a source of qualified customers. Spending time with the family is more important than spending hours cooking elaborate meals, so a 30 minute meal will work.

You have the key.

The key is understanding what is important. When you focus on the important time management becomes simpler, because you recognize busy work for what it is. Activity is the key to wondering where your time went. Productivity is the key to getting more done in your day, when you learn this, people will begin to wonder how you get so much done in a day.

Source URL: http://www.goal-setting-guide.com

3/25/2018

When Discipline Becomes a Habit, Boredom Enters Your Life

Daily routines seem to be boring phenomena to many. Especially if you have to wake up at six, reach office by nine and come back home by eight in the evening, after pushing your head through a mad traffic, you will start hating your life. Our elders always choose to advise us to be disciplined. They tell us about their experiences and site believable examples about SUCCESSFUL people who were successful (according to them) because they were disciplined. Many parents want their children to be disciplined to a level that often drives them crazy and children end up doing exactly opposite.

Discipline is not about a fixed routine. Discipline is about putting your own self to an order at the level of health and fitness, work and studies, friends and relationships etc.

1. “You turn down your friends offer to watch a movie because it’s an important day at office” – that’s discipline. “You don’t accompany your colleague for a cup of coffee after you finished your shift because you have to reach home by ten everyday’ – that’s not discipline. That’s you submitting to a routine.
2. “You wake up at 6 in the morning, brush your teeth, do some yoga exercises and then have a light breakfast at 8 before you leave for office” – that’s discipline. “You didn’t have your breakfast because your mom prepared something other than your favorite list of items for breakfast” – that’s certainly not discipline.

Discipline is about having the sufficient gut to do what you want and do it with full attention. If you take up a task, complete it by the deadline and do it well, you are disciplined at work. That doesn’t mean you should always follow a specific method or approach. As soon as you stop playing with methods and ways, you stop growing!

Here are key benefits of discipline:

1.    You will be more organized. You can manage your time well and also find some free time to recreate yourself. Your life will be less chaotic and everything will make sense to you. You will not swear at the crowd where everyone is pushing himself forward.

2. You will be better at work or studies. You will keep disturbances and stress at bay and put your hundred percent in doing what you are supposed to do. You will love what you study or do because you will become good at it.

3. You will be a happy individual. Your head will stay safe from clutter and sudden unexpected audio visuals. You will have a peaceful sleep at night and you will appreciate the morning sunshine when you wake up.

When discipline becomes routine:

As soon discipline becomes a routine, you are becoming lesser a part of the practice under discipline. Your involvement comes to a halt because you don’t feel alive while you travel to office by bus, talk to your colleagues on escalator or sit on your desk.

1. You will start hating it. You will be less interested in doing what you are doing. You will find that you suddenly lost interest in doing what you always wanted to do.
2. Boredom enters your life sphere. Suddenly, you don’t like the atmosphere in laboratory or office where you were so happy earlier.
3. Everything starts messing itself up. When your head goes nuts, everything else follows.

When routine becomes habit:

1. That’s the worst part. You won’t feel alive. You will run from one corner to other but peace will continue eluding you.
2. You will stop dreaming about ‘good and great things’ you want in your life.

As soon as you start acting out of habit, whole joy of action is lost. It is important to lose habitual practice to have anything new in life. In the world of internet, majority of young population spend their time on social networking websites, chat rooms and several other portals. As long as the excitement is there, as long as the eagerness is there, they find it interesting. Then, it becomes a habit.

After a few weeks, they spend four hours on internet but do not enjoy as much. They keep spending time on it and start hating it. It’s ironic to see that they will still continue doing so until the dissatisfaction reaches alarming levels and head starts heating up like an oven. It’s important that we live a life with as few habits as possible.

Here are a few things you can try:

1. Go for a morning walk if you have not done it for years.Try a different trek if are already doing it and don’t find it joyful.
2. Visit an old friend or just talk to him/her online.
3. Stay offline for an entire day! Say goodbye to social networking sites for a few days.
4. Travel shorter distances on foot if that makes you happy. or by a new bike if you have been putting yourself at discomfort by walking too much.
5. Visit a new restaurant in your locality. Try new dishes and see if you like them.
6. Start writing a diary. Stop doing it for sometime if that was one of your habits you don’t enjoy any more J
7. Join a new course at the local institution. Learn music, writing, dance, drama, public speaking etc. Do what you wanted to do when you were young.
8. Take a day off and visit a nice place.

To sum up:

Discipline is like drinking milk daily because you think it makes you healthy and you enjoy its taste. Routine is like drinking milk daily for reasons unknown! Habit is like drinking milk daily while you have forgotten the true taste of milk.

3/18/2018

Beyond Impressions

Harmony of the heart is being in tune with the nature. Harmony does not have to mean agreement. Harmony is more like peace. People can be opposed in their thoughts and opinions, and yet there is no opposition. There is acceptance. There is no need to change how anyone thinks. What does it matter if one calls the sky green and the grass blue?

Ways to think cannot be forced. No one can be made to think one way or another. It is not obligatory. Thoughts do change, yet they can change only of their own accord. Thoughts have a will of their own. You cannot by dint of will change even your own thoughts let alone someone else’s. Yet the day will come when your thoughts do change.

Thoughts resemble beliefs. You believe what you believe. No matter what the reward or punishment, you can only believe what you believe. You can act differently from what you believe. You can pretend to believe and not yet believe.

Yet it is good to have your thoughts and actions coincide. If you think to do a kind act, follow through on it. Do not let opportunities go by. Then you will not have regrets. A kind thought is good. A kind thought acted on is better.

By what means do thoughts change? You cannot make them change, yet thoughts change. Thoughts change when a light goes on. Your thoughts are based on your perceptions. How you think depends upon how you see.

Today you see the person in front of you as a friend. Tomorrow you may see him as a foe. Have you not experienced this or vice versa? The person before you is what you make of him. You paint your own picture with the brushes of your perception.

You may say that another’s person’s words, actions, or reactions are what you base your thoughts on. You base your thoughts on your interpretation of another’s words, actions, or reactions. You must know this is so. There may be someone you cannot tolerate, and someone else loves that person you cannot tolerate.

You may say that the person you don’t like shows himself in a different light to the one who loves him. That may well be so. And yet it is also possible that he gives the best of himself because the one who loves him sees him differently and treats him differently too.

Your interpretations are everything.

This is true in nations as well. In one culture, a certain action is considered lovely. In another culture, it may be viewed as not lovely. If you see friendliness, odds are you will respond in friendliness. If you see aloofness, odds are you will be aloof also.

What else is there to say, but that you think and act based upon your impressions. True or false, right or wrong, you respond to how you see.

Now you are coming to the point where you go beyond impressions. You come to the point where you come from, not where you surmise someone else to be, but from where you are.

You are not to spend your life bouncing off other people. If you must bounce, bounce off the nature. It will feel good, and you will be so gentle.

You will stand on a mountain top. You will be the mountain. What fuss will a mountain make of grass that grows at its feet? What will the mountain mind? What will it object to? What will it not love when it stands so tall above the madding crowd?

Source URL: http://www.heavenletters.org/beyond-impressions.html

3/11/2018

The Sun Rises

When you wake up in the morning, you are like the sun just rising. It is automatic for you to rise out of bed. And, now, begin to think that you are rising in order for your light to shine on the day. With what enthusiasm will you rise? And imagine the eagerness with which the world will greet you.

The world has been waiting for you. You are here to brighten up the world. You are to raise yourself to great heights so that the world can rise with you. The world has to rise. It can rise only according to you. The world follows in your footsteps.

When you wake up in the morning, be like the sun rising over the horizon. Spread the rays of your heart wide. The dew of the grass will reflect your light.

Today, all during the day, look at everyone as a sun rising before you. Never mind clouds that might cover the sun before you. The sun of the person before you may be unaware of his own sunlight. Let him see his light in your eyes then. Let him be ennobled by your light shining on him.

You are a light that shines. Even as you are someone who has to go to work, perhaps take the subway, go to a job that you are tired of, that is where your light is to shine. Light up the subway by your own radiance. Light up your job by your very presence. Blazon your light, so that others may see it and so that you yourself may see your own light in its entire splendor.

Do not tell yourself that, as one person, you are incapable of lighting the world. You have sometimes let one person darken your world, haven't you? One person's expression or word has shrunk your heart. Is not light as powerful as the dark? Light is more powerful. Your light is more powerful. If you think your light isn't exceedingly powerful, you have been kidding yourself.

Remember that you are a shiner of light. You are not a bearer of bad news. You are not someone who is to keep yourself or anyone or the world glued in place. You are to loosen the bonds that keep people in place. You are to free the world to its own possibilities. It is you who will make possibilities certainties.

The way to do this is for you to stop looking at your feet. Cease to look at things as they have been. Begin to look at the world as it is meant to be looked at. See the possibilities. There is an untraveled path before you. That is the path to take. Your step will be light. The path will be well-lighted. You will have lighted it. Before you know it, there will be no path under you. You who are light will be walking on light. The light you follow is your own light radiated before you. There will be no detouring from it, so clear will be the light that you are, so strong will be the signal you send.

Your path is well-lighted. Do not for one moment delude yourself that you are in darkness. Dark is merely a subterfuge. It is a scam. Even if you have previously bought into darkness a thousand times, today you buy into light, and know it is yours, and yours to shine so that you may see it and see all others warmed in the rising light that you are.

Source URL: http://www.heavenletters.org/the-sun-rises.html

3/4/2018

Release Your Teachers

By Jennifer Hoffman

Within your soul group you are both teacher and student, learning from and teaching each other as you complete what for many of you is a final stage in this journey of ascension. Jennifer Hoffman has the best insight.

Be grateful for each teacher in your life and for the challenges they provide you with as they are no more than the completion and closure you require to finish your cycle through the third dimension. With each new understanding you release connections to the teachers who have agreed to walk with you and then you and they are free from each other.

While you may feel that you are on one path to healing, your journey has limitless options, each of which has different teachers and lessons and addresses a healing need within all of you. The lessons appear to be difficult and complex but there is one lesson for humanity to learn, which is reflected in each individual life path, and that is the lesson of compassion. To release your teachers, compassion is the lesson you must embrace and apply to all aspects of your life.

Compassion includes understanding, acceptance and allowance, respect for self and others, honoring each path and the dissension of the light into your being. With each gift of compassion you release your teachers, freeing them from their contracts with you and their commitment to your growth and healing. Just as you may regret their presence in your life, they may also regret their obligations to you.

Compassion moves you beyond holding light and healing for others for with it, they can find these truths within themselves. It awakens them to their power and shifts their thinking from being a victim into their being. With compassion you set your intention for releasing your teachers and can choose healing over karma and love instead of pain. Your gift of compassion may create a void in your path as your old teachers leave and new teachers and lessons enter, on a higher path and vibration. Compassion resonates with unconditional love and is the brightest light you can offer to the world. It is the lesson of ascension, the door way to heaven on earth and is what will bring peace, love and joy to a world that needs it at this time.

Copyright ©2018 by Jennifer Hoffman and Enlightening Life OmniMedia, Inc.

2/28/2018

An Old Farmer's Advice and Wisdom

Your fences need to be horse-high, pig-tight and bull-strong.
Life is simpler when you plough around the stump.
A bumble bee is considerably faster than a John Deere tractor.
Words that soak into your ears are whispered...not yelled.
Meanness don't jes' happen overnight.
Forgive your enemies. It messes up their heads.
Do not corner something that you know is meaner than you.
It don't take a very big person to carry a grudge.
You cannot unsay a cruel word.
Every path has a few puddles.
When you wallow with pigs, expect to get dirty.
The best sermons are lived, not preached.
Most of the stuff people worry about ain't never gonna happen anyway.
Don't judge folks by their relatives.
Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you'll enjoy it a second time.
Don't interfere with somethin' that ain't botherin' you none.
Timing has a lot to do with the outcome of a rain dance.
If you find yourself in a hole, the first thing to do is stop diggin'.
Sometimes you get, and sometimes you get not.
The biggest troublemaker you'll probably ever have to deal with, watches you from the mirror every mornin'.
Always drink upstream from the herd.
Good judgment comes from experience, and a lotta that comes from bad judgment.
Lettin' the cat outta the bag is a whole lot easier than puttin' it back in.
If you get to thinkin' you're a person of some influence, try orderin' somebody else's dog around.
Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly.
(And Don't forget - Don't spit into the wind...)

2/21/2018

Have You Lost Your Focus?

By Michael Angier

We all know how important it is to focus on what we want.

But what happens when we LOSE focus?

It’s easy to do, isn’t it?

We get distracted. Something captures our interest and diverts our attention away from our chosen objective.

We suffer setbacks. Things don’t work out as planned. Someone lets us down.

Circumstances change and good plans go bad. We get interrupted. An important matter takes precedence—sometimes for long periods of time.

We, or members of our team, get sick or hurt. We don’t have the energy we had before and find it slow to get back in the game.

These things happen to everyone. And we have to be careful we don’t think we're being singled out. The “Why is this happening to me?” question gets us nowhere.

We must first recognize that we’ve lost focus. And at the earliest opportunity, we must recommit. We have to get back on the horse we fell off from and ride again.

And this is what separates the winners from the losers.

The loser says it’s too hard. He says it’s not worth the effort. He thinks it’s just “not in the cards” and he quits.

But the winner doesn’t take the set-back personally. She dusts herself off and recommits to the plan. She sees the setback as just that—a setback—not a sign that it’s not to be.

What do YOU need to refocus upon? Is it a positive habit? Is it a goal? Is it a toleration you said you’d eliminate?

Revisit your reasons why. Focus on the results you will produce and not on what has not worked. Because what you focus on expands.

Today’s a new day. The past is just as historic as if it had happened a thousand years ago. You can’t change what’s happened or not happened. But you CAN recommit. You CAN refocus.

Source URL: http://SuccessNet.org

2/14/2018

There it is... now it's gone!
By Bob Perks

There it is.  Now it's gone.  A chance to do something, say something, make a difference, or make no difference at all except for having the chance and taking it.

I call them the "Shoulda Dones."

I shoulda done this or I shoulda done that. 

I often talk about living life fully.  Making every moment count.  I tell you not to live this day as if it were your last, but to live it like it was the first day.  A day so full of surprise and opportunity that the mere thought of having another day, makes you jump out of bed excited.

I love the "stop and smell the roses" people.

I love to read about people who saw a need and decided to fill it.

I rejoice in the stories I read about people who stopped running the rat race and did what they loved to do.

I remind you to always kiss them goodnight, tell them "I love you!," say "thanks" and mean it and smile, really smile a lot.

There it is.  Now it's gone.

Today will bring you many chances to...

Say "I love you" or "Thank you!"

Stop what you are doing and do something silly

Buy flowers and give them away to strangers

Pay for a stranger's breakfast

Run ahead to hold the door

Let a driver cut in front of you

Call a friend you haven't spoken with in a long time

Check on a neighbor

Paint, write, or sing out loud

Dance to the music in the mall

Or pull out a lawn chair and sit in the sun when the temperature is so low the tip of your nose freezes.

I had talked about doing it for days and yesterday I did.

It didn't make the news but it made me feel better about myself because I seized the moment. 

Do something today for yourself or someone and tell me about it.

I'm out to do something for someone else today.

It's not just another day, it's another chance!

"There it is... Now it's gone!"

2/7/2018

The Toughest Things
By Bob Perks

There are lessons to be learned and people to teach them. I find that to be true in every part of our lives.  It is important to note that sometimes we are the student and sometimes we are the teacher.  So, how do we know if we are learning or teaching? It all depends on our attitude.

How do we know if we are learning or teaching? It all depends on our attitude. For me, I take the attitude of the student.  I want to learn.  I want to see the world, not as a gigantic classroom, but as a fun, exciting field trip without textbooks, instructions, or rules.

This means I learn more from the mistakes I make than the accuracy of the steps I take in the right direction.

In my life, the best lessons are learned the hard way. 

What comes easy to me, I forget.

So, here is a list of what would appear to be easy things that require more than we realize:

To love a dog is easy, but to be worthy of its love is tough...
Our pets love us unconditionally. Which means we hardly need to do anything to get that love.  But ask yourself based on the time and attention you give, if you really deserve it?  This applies to our relationship with people, too.

To teach a child is easy, but to live what we teach...
I can remember the old phrase "Do as I say, not as I do!" What you do may be the true lesson your child is learning. Teach by example.

To watch a sunset is easy, but to see it as a new beginning...
How many times have you said, "I can't wait until this day is over!" When it ends, do you simply brush it off?  Linger in anger and stress over it?  Adjust your attitude and see the day's end as a new chance to begin again?

To see what's wrong is easy, but to make it right...
We can't right every wrong in the world, but just pointing out what's wrong won't make the world a better place. What the world needs are people who take action.  If you don't have the ability to change it, find someone who does then help them.  "Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter."  Martin Luther King Jr.

To fall down is easy, but to get up again and again...
Sometimes life is unbearable.  Failure is not how many times you fall, but the last time you chose not to get up again.

To give is easy, but to give when it calls for sacrifice...
Even in these tough economic times there are things we can do to help others.  It may call for belt tightening, or giving a little extra time to a cause, but sacrifice gives to both the giver and the receiver.

To lie is easy, but to tell the truth when you have lied...
The greatest enemy in any relationship is the lie.  Upon it grows mistrust.  Revealing it brings about rebirth and a chance to grow even closer.

To be angry is easy, but to forgive...

It is said that "forgiveness frees the forgiver." One can let go through forgiveness or be weighed down with the burden of remembering forever.

To criticize is easy, but to praise...
I have found that there are more things to praise in life than to criticize.  It has also helped me to find life more enjoyable.  Praise is like oxygen to one who is suffocating under criticism.

To try is easy, but to do...
I can say "I'll try!" and make very little commitment  to do it. But if I say "I'll do it!" my mind and body will respond differently to the challenge.  "Do or do not.  There is no try."  Yoda

To begin is easy, but to finish...is tough.
"Begin" is an idea.  "Finish" becomes a reality. Most people say, "If I only had the money I would..." You don't have a money problem, you have a idea problem.  Any plan can begin on paper without costing anything but time and effort.  Finish the project, evaluate it and work the plan.  Or begin a new one based on what you've learned.

1/28/2018

New Year’s Resolutions

By Oliver Thomas

New Year's resolution No. 1: Become more empathetic

This is where it all starts. If I can't see the world through others' eyes, I will never be a good citizen, much less able to love my neighbor as myself. Until we understand each other, we will never make common cause.

So how does one become more empathetic? By engaging with people different from ourselves and listening. So take a gay work colleague to lunch. Vis­it a mosque, synagogue or African-American church. Invite a friend from a different political par­ty over for a beer. Then, ask questions. And listen.

New Year's resolution No. 2: Practice compassion

The Dalai Lama says if you want to make other people happy, practice compassion. If you want to make yourself happy, practice compassion. The quickest way to become more compassionate? Volunteer. I do it once a week at a local children's home, but there are a thousand other choices. Call your local United Way for a list of good options.

Here's another way. Do as the bumper sticker says and start engaging in random acts of kindness. Don't just walk by the homeless person. Take her to lunch. Give your coat to the man standing on the windy street corner in a threadbare jacket. You've probably got more at home. Throw a twenty in the Salvation Army's pot when you're shopping. Just start doing kind things for others. Compassion must be practiced, and here's the thing: Behavior begets habit. Habit begets character. Next thing you know, you've become a compassionate person.

New Year's resolution No. 3: Hold your tongue

James, the brother of Jesus, had this to say about the human tongue: "How great a forest is set aflame by such a small fire! ... For every species of beasts and birds, of reptiles and creatures of the sea, is tamed and has been tamed by the human race. But no one can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil1; and full of deadly poison."

Rarely have I gotten into trouble for things I didn't say. More often, I'm hoisted with my own petard.

Accordingly, I'll start with this simple goal: Speak no harm. When I'm tempted to do otherwise, I'll try to follow my mother's sage advice and count to 20 before I speak. This one will be the hardest for me.

We have much to be thankful for. But while some are being called on to die for our country, perhaps the rest of us are being called on to live for it. Whether we can become the people we must be in order to be the nation the world needs us to be is, entirely up to us.

Oliver Thomas is a member of USA TODAY's board, of contributors and author of 10 Things Your Minis­ter Wants to Tell You (But Can't Because He Needs, the job).

1/21/2018

The Ability to Respectfully Disagree

By Michael Angier

A critical key to success in your career and in your life overall is developing and maintaining good relationships. Here is a great article by Michael Angier who has a support network helping people and businesses grow and prosper.

Our relationships with friends, coworkers, suppliers, spouses, clients, bosses, siblings, teachers, employees, competitors and parents affect everything we do. Our success is highly dependent upon these relationships.

And it's not enough to be likable. Being agreeable and good natured are admirable traits. But in order to effect real change—in order to be a leader—one must often go against the norm. To make a difference, we often have to disagree with people and take different positions. Just going along with everyone will not work.

People are often surprised at how diverse my friends and business associates are. I have good relationships with people who are liberal and conservative, religious and secular. I seem to be able to get along with people from different cultures, with dissimilar philosophies and even divergent values.

I credit this to usually being tolerant and respectful. I like people and I learn something from almost everyone. I don't need to be right—even though I like to be. I also don't believe there is only one way, one path, one right answer.

The trick is to be able to disagree without being disagreeable. We want to respect others and have others respect us.

I think it starts with respecting others enough to listen to their points of view —and to do this regardless of whether or not we agree with them. The more you understand, the more you validate their viewpoint, the more likely it is they'll respond in kind, and you'll have a better relationship.

There's real truth in the old adage, "people don't care how much you know until they know how much we care." And I love Stephen Covey's profound maxim, "seek first to understand."

We all know that a response to someone's viewpoint like, "That's stupid!" is near the worst end of the spectrum. Here are a few on the other side. Be aware: they require you to be sincere and won't work unless you are.

"That's an interesting viewpoint. You must have a good reason for thinking that way. Do you mind telling me what it is?"

"I think I understand what you're saying, and could you tell me more about how you arrived at your opinion?"

"That's interesting. And I see it somewhat differently. May I explain?"

"I see what you're saying. I have another way of looking at it . . ."

There are many more. The point is to respond with respect, courtesy and honesty.

Action Point

Commit to improving your ability to talk about controversial things in a responsible, respectful and tolerant fashion. You'll get better with practice, but you won't practice and experiment unless you're committed to doing it well.

Then do it. Respond, don't react. Be considerate without being abrasive. Speak your truth with compassion.

After discussions, think about how you might have responded better—how you could have listened better, demonstrated more respect and been more tolerant. Don't make yourself wrong for it; just notice what you do, then resolve to do it better next time.

1/14/2018

What surprises me most about humankind?

That they get bored with childhood, they rush to grow up, and then long to be children again.

That they lose their health to make money... and then lose their money to restore their health.

That by thinking anxiously about the future, they forget the present, such that they live in neither the present nor the future.

That they live as if they will never die, and die as though they had never lived.

1/7/2018

New Year

A new year lies ahead. We all possess the capacity to feel and to touch, to be happy, to have friends, to receive love, to realize the demands of a world that needs our encouragement, our participation, our beliefs. All of us are one -- the rich, the poor, the educated, the illiterate, the student, businessperson, the professional, the person with spouse and children, the person who is alone. So much is new in our world -- new people, new directions, new opportunities, and new purpose. Every day is a new day bringing into our lives friendship, promise, and love.

Let us ask ourselves hard questions…

How much time did we waste in the year that is now gone?

Did we fill our days with life, or were they dull and empty?

Was there love inside our home, or was the affectionate word left unsaid?

Was there a real companionship with our children, our parents or was there a living together and a growing apart?

Were we a help to our mates, or did we take them for granted?

With our friends - Were we there when they needed us?

The kind deed: Did we perform it or postpone it? The unnecessary gibe: did we say it or hold it back?

Did we live by false values? Did we deceive others? Did we deceive ourselves?

Were we sensitive to the rights and feelings of those who worked with us?

Did we acquire only possessions, or did we acquire new insights as well?

Did we fear what the crowd would say and keep quiet when we should have spoken out?

Did we mind only our own business, or did we feel the heartbreak of others?

And…

Did we live right, and if not, then have we learned and will we change?

 

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